What's a good way to reject someone's advances...

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by bluesafire, Jan 28, 2009.

  1. TheGanjaKing

    TheGanjaKing Newbie

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    its only strange children I don't know......


    ..... and mostly in other states. not the one I live in
     
  2. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    I appreciate honesty alot... and sometimes I can be very blunt without sugar coating. But there's no one who doesn't mean anything to me. I kinda include all people in the "meaningful" category. :)
     
  3. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    that makes it all better
     
  4. TheGanjaKing

    TheGanjaKing Newbie

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  5. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    hahaha! I like that.

    heh I've tried that before. Most people can't handle the truth. haha! Actually I'm thinking the REAL "real" answer is that I'm just not clicking with them. An energy thing... that's what I go by anyway. I gotta have that energy connection. How do you explain that though? without sounding like I'm floating on the astral plane? :p
     
  6. Unknown American

    Unknown American Rogue Capitalist

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    Let me be very blunt with you.

    I appreciate girls being brutally honest with me.

    I would prefer them to tell me to fuck off if they are not interested.

    That is doing me a favor.

    I am not one to waist time.

    A direct and even rude response tells me I need to start hitting on someone else.

    There are millions of beautiful girls in the world. Why would I be hurt if a few tell me to fuck off? There are a million other prospects out there.
     
  7. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    That's really cool that you don't take rejection personally. I wish everyone could do that.
     
  8. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    I know what you mean.Just tell him accurately and diplomatically that u know exactly what u want.And that u simply wouldnt fulfill his needs ever , either.Memorise a list if u have to.

    And dont go for the fuck off routine, IMO.I've always found people who have to adopt that approach are wrestling some internal shit or other.And usually end up going out with the person they said fuck off to...Which does or doesnt mean more grief for both parties.

    PS it might be he knows already and wants to coast along as friends til u both get sthg else?Dunno...
     
  9. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    Yeah, that's just not me. Someone would have to push me to the point of having no other choice to get them off my back, to get me to say that.

    Yeah, most people know on some level but just don't want to admit it... or they have a hidden agenda.. which kinda sucks.
     
  10. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    IMO fuck off is used on pervs in clubs.Or someone who beats his girlfriend up.But if you're friendly with him , a "fuck off" just screams "I cant handle my life, its all too much" ( not "we're not suited") IMO.


    How well do you know him?You think he has a hidden agenda( like just sex?)Or you're friends with him?

    My view is , dont kill off friends , its just bad all round , u know?
     
  11. lode

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    Be direct. People get their feelings hurt, but the sooner they know the easier it'll be.

    I think if he's the kind of guy to be that determined, I say she should reconsider. :biggrin:
     
  12. Unknown American

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    Rejection is a part of life. Everyone will have to deal with it at one time or another.

    Better to be straight with someone. Otherwise you are encouraging them.

    Look I know it is easy to string along most men. You do not directly hurt them in the short term. But long term it will hurt them.

    Way more than if you told them the truth directly.
     
  13. Jaitaiyai

    Jaitaiyai Cianpo di tutti capi

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    I've never been rejected and I've never rejected someone.
    Tell them you like the smell of their ears. They'd never talk to you again.
     
  14. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    Put your hand up your own behind.And pretend to be a ventriloquist's dummy.Screaming "I am not going back in that suitcase" is likely to have the desired effect...:cool: ;)
     
  15. daisymae

    daisymae Senior Member

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    I haven't been pursued in close to 15 years. So...I have no idea what I would do, but at my age, a guy hopefully has enough social skills not to stalk me.
     
  16. lode

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    My strategy with women is just to keep trying.I don't come off that smooth initially, but eventually how studly I am will shine through.

    You have to be real overt with a guy like me.

    Morons I call us. :biggrin:
     
  17. Piaf

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    I couldn't do that. But good for you, I guess.
     
  18. Jaitaiyai

    Jaitaiyai Cianpo di tutti capi

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    That could be painful.
    Another option, look longingly into their eyes, smile, brush a bit of their hair back from their face/run your hands through their hair and start spelling Mississippi. Again and again. Do not stop until you have freaked them out enough.
     
  19. Unknown American

    Unknown American Rogue Capitalist

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    Tell them the sexual Chemistry is just not there.

    Direct and true.
     
  20. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

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    I totally agree, that's why I want to find a truthful direct response, but also one that's kind.
     

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