What would you think

i'd lay odds that you're not. so many people think they're ugly when they're anything but...sigh...

 

I agree...but some people are and just accept the fact that people fid them repulsive to look at for any extended period of time!

 

maybe he's not self-confident

 

I don't think thats the problem at all, he doesn't seem to have a problem with anyone else.....only me!

 

i know...i understand
i mean....maybe you are too important for him and he's afraid of leaving a bad impression

 

Maybe I'd think he saw me as different, i.e. more special, like he respected me... That with me he saw more in this relationship.

 

yeah thats what he says, but it just seems strange to me that you would care that much about somebody that you didn't want a relationship with them.

mind you, now that I think about it we do have a relationship, just not the physical part of it.

 

I hope you dont mind if i jump on this thread, i believe someone said it before about him feeling needy and wanting the attention he cant get from other women from you, alot of guys feel as they get older that they want to settle down with someone and they have a couple girls in mind as they grow older but maybe your the only girl that treats him the way he likes to be treated, but it could be that you arent as good looking on the outside as you are a beautiful person on the inside. So the guy could be in love with your personality and how you two click and be to superficial to settle down with you, And im thinking he asked to move with you because he is scared of losing you, to him you could possibly be the woman he sees himself settling down with but then again maybe hes just not ready yet to settle down..

and as for the guy that has been cracking little comments about you being ugly, thats just ignorent...

He might not think your cute or hott or beautiful...but there is someone out there that will think of you in all these ways..

I guess all you can do is to see if things work out, let him move with you shoot for what you want...if it doesnt work out atleast you followed your true self and not something somebody said on a forum =p

be true to yourself...

 

I told him he could come with me if he wanted to, and I get the impression that he wants to, but feels like he doesn't have enough of a reason to.....if that makes sense. Like if he did come then I would know that it was only because of me??

Thank you for your advice!

 

i'm confused...why else would he come with you?

 

Lady of the freaks has a point, your not making him go so he must really want to go himself, its hard to make the decision of hopping to a new place when your so familiar with the one you live in, i would take it as him deciding whether or not he really wants to disrupt his norms to go live there rather than him deciding he wants to be around you.

 

sorry I meant more that if he had a job to go to or something like that then he would have more of an excuse to leave