What would you do if

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by lynsey, Sep 4, 2005.

  1. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    you found out that your boyfriend was soliciting other women while he was with you? But you couldn't tell if he was being innapropriatley and hurtfully flirty or genuine? oh and you found out accidentally by searching for something that he said but the explanation of how you found out would be unbelivable and seem l9ike a violation of privacy? It feels like I got punched in the stomach and my immediatte reaction is to go somewhere I shouldn't and flirt like hell with other men as a revenge thing. But I know that's irresponsible but man I didn't think he was like that and I really don't want to take his call tonight and on topo of that he's coming out in three days and I'm afraid I'm not going to be able to let it go by then without saying anything. help):
     
  2. Soulless||Chaos

    Soulless||Chaos SelfInducedExistence

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    Ehh... That's a bit confusing, but if you try to do things to hurt eac h other for revenge it's only going to get worse.. :eek:
     
  3. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    I so wanted to go and just have someone hold me and make me stop crying but I was honest and sent him an email instead as I think I would throw up in hurtness and anger if I talked to him right now. I was responsible and honest so we shall see if it doesn't turn out well there's a million other guys in the sea who would not want to solicit sex from other women and flirt like mad behind my back while I've beenloyal and excited about seeing him and have even denied the slightest bit of flirting from other guys.
     
  4. Peanuts

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    I would tell him it bothers me when he is overly friendly. Coming from a woman's view one may see his behavior as a come on. It's nice if he's geniunely wanting to be kind but don't be so flirty.


    I hope it works out for you and you enjoy your visit together.
     
  5. lynsey

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    hey:) nice to see ya! Unfortunatley it was a but more than that. I'm fine with flirty as I'm a flirt myself but thee's a line between flirty and trying to pick people up and I'm terrified that he crossed that line. I just remember him telling me 'you're the only person I could think about making love to' and now I find that thought is a lie and it's really sad for me): Are ya all feeling better yet? I got my cast off:) :)
     
  6. Peanuts

    Peanuts Nutz

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    It's hard to imagine you are talking about the same person I once knew.

    I'm feeling okay. Great most of the time, exhausted the other half. We got a puppy. Her name is Peanut. She's a nut! She's beautiful and so sweet but part devil! Tonight we were playing football with her in our field. She's a fast runner.

    You must love having your arm back. I don't even like wearing a bandaide. I can't imagine going months with a cast on.

    It sucks you are in this situation. Do you think he might be trying to play a mind game with you?
     
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  8. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    Ahhhhh do you have any pictures of her? I bet your kiddies are ahppy little guys:)
    ergh I'm a dork he was only a little bit of a jerk now that I know the situation:) But I can't wait to see him and he has a good jeart...plus they leaarn eventually right? especially if you live together and have the ability to keep your legs closed...just kidding kinda. heh
     
  9. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

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    oh and he recreated the rules by his actions and telling me over and over that they were nothing-joking. As someone who has gotten in some pretty heavy duty fights with exes over my flirting I don't think this was smart on his part at all. Not trying to make him jealous and get him back I just have an open door to flirt as much as I damn well please.
     
  10. interval_illusion

    interval_illusion Deceased

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    i wouldnt tolerate it. period.

    and he would stop if i told him to.
     

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