what would you do if your love/partner cheating on you?

What will u do?scold him/her or kick them on the face?damn..i hate that situation

 

Break up, cut off all contact.

 

Yeah..find a new life and new love.

 

OP is the same one that started this thread

 

Aaaaah a deep thinker, that one

 

'Balls deep'

 

almost nothing. i'm precisely as willing to share as they would be to be shared. i would be critical of their dishonesty perhaps. my feeling is that all partners need to pass the approval test of all other partners, and certainly not bring contagion.

you know i would always feel bad and insecure about being lied to, if that were the case, but otherwise, as long as they still had some love for me, ok. if they wanted to go someplace else, well i certainly would NOT feel it my right to try and stop them.

i mean there are some things i wouldn't do. like support them and their new partner at my one expense or anything as crazy as that.

but i really would have no objection to a poly-amorous situation, as long as it was mutual all around, and not just in reality an excuse to exclude me.

three sums are of course unstable, but nothing wrong manage a four or five.

THEY would just have to accept that what was good for the gander was good for the goose, and accept poly-amoury in mutual equanimity.

 

Well, we share each other with others. If he was having Sex with others without telling me, I'd undoubtedly feel betrayed. We'd talk about it. See if there's a need I'm not fulfilling. Maybe if he had a fetish or kink that he didn't feel conformable telling me about (which seems unfathomable to me, but you never know). Then we'd reevaluate our limits, and hopefully move on from it with lessons learned.

 

yep, exactly that.

 

I don't share so it would be done. If my guy needs more then me he can go for it. Never had it happen and I know it wouldn't go over well especially if he messed with me again after. I don't trust people well enough to know they aren't hiding something or are clean enough for me to get along with the sharing idea, especially on a cheating level.

 

Bitch you just try cheating on me .......





Hotwater

 

lol... they're only cheating themselves...

 

Truthfully, I don't know. It seems like something you can't truly answer until you are in that situation.

 

I forgave after a lot of conversation back and forth about how horrible it felt to have that happen and how things needed to change and then after maybe a week or two of things being better they went back to the way they were and I held on for another year or so of constant chaos.

If it ever happens again, I'll just leave.

 

In my opinion this is the best answer. Cause it's hard to say and for some, maybe most people highly situational.

Anyways I doubt I'd ever be in that situation. It's hard to say how I'd actually react but I can guarantee after 15+ years with someone who's always been loyal to me and who I trust completely with everything...and who I have two kids with (2, soon, of course.), I would not leave. I mean if he ever came to me and told me it was a mistake and he regretted it and it was over. I wouldn't be happy. I'd just have to figure out exactly what happened and what needs worked on in our relationship....cause I can guarantee if we were in that situation it would be something. But I wouldn't just walk away. I actually feel like I owe my husband way more than that.

But that's not only just me but that's just this relationship.... in the past one guy cheated on me (that I knew/found out about). I left him that day and never looked back. Oh and I told him that I cheated on him too and I was glad to be rid of him... doesn't matter if that was truthful or not. I was only with the guy like 5 months and it really wasn't worth trying to fix things or trust him again.

I think that's the bottom line w me and how originally I said it is a highly situational thing. It would all be based on a case to case basis on if I could trust the person again. With my ex I could not trust him. At all. Ever. I knew that. With my husband... if he ever made a mistake because maybe we start having problems or-whatever-I know without a doubt that if he regretted it and told me about it that I would be able to trust him again. It wouldn't be right away but I would trust him again because I view trust as a long term thing-I trust him 100% so far w everything after 15 years. One thing wouldn't wipe that out.

 

Honesty is always best no matter what the situation.....
If I was in a relationship where we were supposed to be true to one another, and was cheated on...the trust would be broken ....lies do that, too, though....

 

lol...


have a beer
go to sleep

 

Leave them. Unless I've been with them over ten years, then he's proven is love so then he could go out and maybe have some fun. Just as long as he doesn't let the fun bud into a new relationship with somebody

 

Muhahahaha, good one