What To Think Of This...

Discussion in 'True Love' started by ippn1, Mar 10, 2015.

  1. ippn1

    ippn1 Guest

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    we have been together for a year. We are both 28 now. So we had our one year anniversary on Wednesday. We dont have regular sex (she lives at home and she rarely came to my place where we can have sex even tho i invite her quite often she came only once a month). So on Wednesday we went to a dinner and during dinner i suggested/invited her to come to my place on Saturday, but she declined invitation, because her best friend came back from holidays - she was gone for 14 days, and my gf rather wait for her at home to have a drink with her than come to my place and make some love. I m pretty hurt :/((
    She also gave me nothing for our anniversary even tho she was constantly counting how many months/weeks/days are still missing till one year together, so i thought its a big deal to her. Am i wrong to being hurt?!?
     
  2. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    Speak both from my own experience and from observing other relationships, technically you two have already done what needed to be done for your one year anniversary which is the dinner together. If you are exchanging love(not lust, to be clear), then gifts aren't really that important in my opinion.

    As for sex, I feel like that's something you two need to discuss and work on. However, I see nothing wrong with her wanting to spend time with her best friend since the best friend was away for a while and they probably need some girls' night. That to me is totally understandable and, in fact, it should be encouraged as far as I'm concerned.

    But if she was often counting the days until the one year anniversary, then that suggests enthusiasm which, in turn, suggests she's still happy to be with you. That is a good thing. Perhaps you're simply not getting laid often enough and are frustrated? Again, you must understand and differenciate the love and lust aspects, and make sure that the lust part is experienced naturally and mutually by both of you. In a loving relationship, sex is one of many aspects/byproducts of love.

    I would suggest discussing these matters, any matter that may come up, with your girlfriend. Communication is important.
     
  3. newbie-one

    newbie-one one with the newbiverse

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    maybe you should have a talk with your gf about your relationship


    I personally think that she is bi and cheating on you with her friend
     
  4. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

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    Oh yeah, hanging out to see a friend definitely suggests she is bi. =\
     

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