What stops you from trying sex with another man?

I saw a thread asking 'Have you tried it?' and it made me wonder why people HAVEN'T tried it.
Trying something new doesn't brand you one way or another unless you do it in a way that it's the first thing people think when they see you.
I'd love it if the world was Bi so we'd have a never ending pool of people to please and enjoy.

So for the bi-curious guys, what are the things that stop you from privately exploring your curiosity?

 

When I was younger (early 20s) and single I was kind of starting a journey. I was REALLY into masturbation (in retrospect maybe too much) and the internet was really becoming popular. There weren’t a lot of free porn sites then but quite a few sex forums and chat rooms. I learned a few things from there to enhance orgasms. I learned I liked a little ass play and like a lot of guys, I tried to suck myself. That led to me tasting my own cum.
Oddly, I never really saw the parallel to guy/guy sex and one time in a chat room someone was like “wellll if ya like that you’d probably like the REAL thing”.

I was scandalized…scared….a lil turned on and definitely terrified. Was I gay? There’s no in between right?? I agonized over such things for many years. Also was scared of someone finding out. By the time I really figured out what/who I was, I was married with kids and couldn’t really be stepping out to be fucked by another guy.
In retrospect, I regret not trying all the stuff I want to but honestly I’m a different person now. Back then I had the freedom without the right mindset….now I have the right mindset without the freedom.

 

This is a question I've been having for decades. Now I'm thinking if I really wanted it I would've tried it by now. I suppose I could have some fun with guys but deep down I know it's not with the same sex I will find my ultimate happiness. The fact is I'm really lonely.

 

Fun with guys can be just what you make it, fun. It doesn't have to be ultimate happiness, but don't confuse fun with future. My life will be spent with a woman, but she will understand my need with men.

 

I admire your optimism. Good luck with that.

 

Sex for me is done, unfortunately. However, when we were going at it, it was great. I didn't embrace my bi side until my late 40's (I've been curious about dick for longer than that). Even now, if the opportunity came up to indulge in a nice thick veiny dick I would definitely do it as the urge is still there. What's stopping me? Uncertainty.

 

I think ultimate happiness comes from all the combined aspects of life, not only from the most front and center relationship.
Fun with men can be a great distraction, a mood booster, a confidence booster, or whatever void you might need to fill temporarily while you continue your journey.
It's not for everyone. Some guys are content with the fantasy and a few good websites. Some guys find it's better when it's real.
Just do you.

 

Thanks for the reasonable and balanced response. You give me something to think about.

 

IDK, I've had a chance or two to be with a guy when the wife and I were doing the lifestyle, but I passed on it, which I now regret. I think for me, the setting wasn't what I wanted, both our wives were there and although he really wanted to suck me and kiss also, I was nervous and uncomfortable and was feeling pressured. The first time my wife was with another woman, she said it would just be the two of them because she was nervous about it also, and I was fine with that.
If it had just been him and myself I'm sure it would have went differently, I would have gladly let him suck me, and as far as kissing....I kind of had a wait and see thing about that, let me get comfortable about receiving and giving oral....and we'll go from there.

 

For many many years I had the attraction for men and their cocks, it was sort of a fascination and I secretly wanted to try it. But society and all of my influences told me it was wrong, dirty etc. men aren’t supposed to enjoy men sexually. So I did my best to ignore those feelings and desires. Got married and had kids. The rhythm of life kept those desires at bay…mostly. The desire, hunger what ever you want to call it was always there. I would once in a while allow myself to fantasize about it thinking if I allowed myself that it would satisfy the urge and it would go away.
Of course it didn’t and I wanted it even more. So finally in my 50’s I thought I would get it out of my system and try it just once. I mean surely I would be satisfied with trying it and then it would be out of my system. It was an agonizing decision, all the thoughts of right and wrong and fidelity were still an issue. By then my wife’s sex drive had dwindled to nothing. And I was craving intimacy with anyone really. It took a long time to reconcile all the emotions and be able to come to terms with my bisexuality.
Once I was a to be comfortable in my own skin I was able to enjoy sexual intimacy with men as much as I had with women.

 

Availability?

 

Being married lol before that I think it was mostly fear

 

I’ve had the opportunity prob 6 times.
Reasons I didn’t:
1) fear of arrest (video booths in abs). Omg…my world would fall apart! Loss of job. Prob divorce.
Openly masturbating for others in these places seemed pretty dangerous (legally) as it was!
2) locations that didn’t feel safe with a guy I didn’t know
3) fear of disease. I can picture me planning on just doing a mutual HJ but being so amped up and horny that a strangers bare dick and cum winds up in my mouth
4) fear of labels….i grew up in a world that was homophobic. Bi didn’t exist. Just the need for experimentation wasn’t recognized.

I will say that at this point if another opportunity presented itself, the odds of me at least trading HJs is near 100%!

 

A lot of reasons (many already mentioned), but a very persistent one for me is the fear of my “bicurious” becoming “bisexual” (I know, I know, “labels” etc). But I’m also extremely bottom curious and fear that being confirmed too.

 

Why does this instill fear in you?

 

Just because of how I was raised. “Gay” and “bisexual” were dirty, shameful labels. I know they’re not actually but internalized beliefs and allz

 

I was raised to believe the same thing... yet I'm very damned bisexual. There's nothing to be afraid of unless you buy into all that social stigma stuff. A long time ago, I had a friend who told me that he was afraid to be bisexual... because he was afraid that he would like it too much. I would suppose that there is such a thing...

 

Well I'm not a gay person, but when I still study and stay at hostel,in that hostel have 4 room, every room have 20 beds, we are only man at there, we have no option,

So, option we have only is sissy boy, they act like a girl, have small dick and like to be tease,

In the hostel around 5 sissy boy we have, every night is like party, fucking a sissy, i remember they moan like a girl,..

Their ass is full of semen, that's so nice that we don't have masturbate when we have fuck toy..

 

Truthfully, I think the human race is genetically predisposed to being bisexual, whether we like to admit it or not and whether it's consciously or deep within our subconscious.
That being said, I have received blowjobs from both men and women, but getting a blowjob is as far as it has ever gone with another man. What's holding me back is a few different things. First and foremost, I am disgusted by the male body. Granted I love looking at certain penises, but the rest of the body is a turn off for me. Second, I'm not into any type of anal sex, giving or receiving. Third, the thought of hugging, kissing or cuddling with another man repulses me. I can actually visualize myself sucking a certain type and size of cock and actually enjoying it, but the body turns me off. I think I could easily trade blowjobs or 69 with a good looking trans woman. That way I wouldn't have to worry about the "male" body and she would have a beautiful cock!!!

 

Contrary to "popular belief," getting a blowjob from a guy - and giving him one - is having sex with another man. See, the perception is that we have to have sex with each other and like we would with women and without understanding some stuff about guys who aren't really homosexual, i.e., we aren't trying to have each other's babies - but we can suck each other off until neither of us can get it up again and, thanks, man - I really needed that.

The truth is that if all you want to do is suck cock with a guy, you can and it's still having sex with a guy. From generation to generation, there's a lot of bullshit that gets spread around that keeps a lot of bicurious guys from ending their curiosity and all because of our predilection of believing perception over the truth. A curious guy is talking to me about why he's afraid to end his curiosity and he's quoting damned near everything I've ever heard when it comes to why a guy won't do what he knows he needs to do. Only a few of his reasons were what I'd call legit, like, his wife finding out or he gets the clap - and I told him that there's a low chance of getting it in your mouth if what you want to do is suck dick and I even told him what to do and to look for if he even thought a guy had the clap and at the end of it all, he realized that he really didn't have a "good reason" not to take those few moments to find out what it's like to give a guy a blowjob and to get one from a guy.

Did I help him to end his curiosity? I sure did and he did very well both physically and emotionally and I was happy to listen to him asking, "Why did I wait so long to do this... and what was I really afraid of?" And I've told a lot of men who wants to do it but haven't tried to take the plunge, "If it's something you really want to do, you'll find a way to do it..." because every guy I have ever known who really wanted to, found a way to do it either with me or with another man.