What stops you from trying sex with another man?

I saw a thread asking 'Have you tried it?' and it made me wonder why people HAVEN'T tried it.
Trying something new doesn't brand you one way or another unless you do it in a way that it's the first thing people think when they see you.
I'd love it if the world was Bi so we'd have a never ending pool of people to please and enjoy.

So for the bi-curious guys, what are the things that stop you from privately exploring your curiosity?

 

When I was younger (early 20s) and single I was kind of starting a journey. I was REALLY into masturbation (in retrospect maybe too much) and the internet was really becoming popular. There weren’t a lot of free porn sites then but quite a few sex forums and chat rooms. I learned a few things from there to enhance orgasms. I learned I liked a little ass play and like a lot of guys, I tried to suck myself. That led to me tasting my own cum.
Oddly, I never really saw the parallel to guy/guy sex and one time in a chat room someone was like “wellll if ya like that you’d probably like the REAL thing”.

I was scandalized…scared….a lil turned on and definitely terrified. Was I gay? There’s no in between right?? I agonized over such things for many years. Also was scared of someone finding out. By the time I really figured out what/who I was, I was married with kids and couldn’t really be stepping out to be fucked by another guy.
In retrospect, I regret not trying all the stuff I want to but honestly I’m a different person now. Back then I had the freedom without the right mindset….now I have the right mindset without the freedom.

 

This is a question I've been having for decades. Now I'm thinking if I really wanted it I would've tried it by now. I suppose I could have some fun with guys but deep down I know it's not with the same sex I will find my ultimate happiness. The fact is I'm really lonely.

 

Fun with guys can be just what you make it, fun. It doesn't have to be ultimate happiness, but don't confuse fun with future. My life will be spent with a woman, but she will understand my need with men.

 

I admire your optimism. Good luck with that.

 

Sex for me is done, unfortunately. However, when we were going at it, it was great. I didn't embrace my bi side until my late 40's (I've been curious about dick for longer than that). Even now, if the opportunity came up to indulge in a nice thick veiny dick I would definitely do it as the urge is still there. What's stopping me? Uncertainty.

 

I think ultimate happiness comes from all the combined aspects of life, not only from the most front and center relationship.
Fun with men can be a great distraction, a mood booster, a confidence booster, or whatever void you might need to fill temporarily while you continue your journey.
It's not for everyone. Some guys are content with the fantasy and a few good websites. Some guys find it's better when it's real.
Just do you.

 

Thanks for the reasonable and balanced response. You give me something to think about.