What should I do? Share your experience please

Oh, now I’d like to share my story. I’m 22 in one month. My first time was when I was 18 with a guy who was 19 and his penis was of normal size or a bit bigger than normal, I don’t quite remember. So we had normal sex, actually very rarely because of distance between our places of living, nothing special. Then I realised I didn’t love and want him, so I broke up with him. Soon I met my current boyfriend and my sexual live became so much varied. We had it 5 or 6 times a day in different positions, but I cummed maybe 2 times on average. And it was okay for me, but the amount of sex was too much, I could get used to it. So he is very active, I am moderate active if I can say so. After seven months of such rhythm I guess I lost my elasticity and my vagina started to become bigger and bigger, I felt this, he felt this, we started to quarrel more, many problems appeared. Then it really became a problem, I started to feel like I’m really big although I’m not a vet big girl I’m quite slim 165 cm with weight 56 kg, but because of my vagina size I’m at my lowest. I don’t know what happened. On the net you can find info that it doesn’t depend on amount of sex you have or partner (he is my second) but depends on age and childbirth (I have never given birth to children and I’m young and too young for such problems), everybody writes about it only from the view of moms or older women, but why me? I did kegels for 3 month 2 times a day each procedure minimum 30 minutes long and I felt improvements but not so drastic… I don’t know what to do. I want him to be happy with me and love me in spite of it, although I already started to undergo emsella ( that is so muuuch better than kegels as net says) and plan to use laser to make collagen fill my pussy and maybe use some filler, I’m desperate

 

Seek professional help, not familiar with remedy you mentioned. But don't let your friend lower, your self-esteem. If he loves you he should help and support you.

 

I have heard a lot of lets say rumors of what can or cannot make you loose or bigger. What is true or not well I highly recommend first getting control of your relationship. No one should feel they are being used or doing too much to satisfy anyone. Next seek help from your doctor. I have heard of non surgical non evasive things can be done.

 

After reading your post a few things came to mind immediately.

I am not against surgery when necessary but in your case, is it necessary?
I know it’s not the same, but it made me think of those tv shows where people get surgical procedures to change their looks to make themselves feel better. Often with regret then they go see those guys on the tv show Botched
Or the lips injected with stuff to look fuller (and fucking dumb too, sorry) the results are not always permanent. What next then?

Are you doing it to keep a guy and in my opinion it’s not guaranteed that he will be happy with the change.
There are some other guys out there who will be happy with just the way you are.

Also if this guy is already treating you that way and finding faults I only see one outcome: it will get worse. No use saying HE LOVES ME, I LOVE HIM, HE CAN CHANGE.
Never assume you will change someone
I repeat: NEVER ASSUME YOU WILL CHANGE SOMEONE. Do I need to repeat?
I have two very hard examples lived by my daughter and my niece, and my ex.
Other users will also be able to tell you stories.

You have to love yourself and not be put down but also keep an open and realistic mind.

It’s not the medical or physical advice you are looking for, but that’s the advice I am giving you

 

@Lilyinthevalley see my answer

 

Not going to lie, if he is giving you issues about it he is a douche and for our own sake of mind need to dump him, i've been with several women who had partners with similar complaints and guess what, not one of them was loose or "big".....i've come to learn over the years, the vagina is very adaptive, penis not so much and in each case the women who had negative partners all mentioned their partners were on the smaller side.

 

Do a Thread Search for Vagina size. Or, it's also in this Forum (Genitalia) we're in now.

Many different points of view from yours and the yahoo you're with. LEARN.

 

eject

 

I’ve already checked it. I didn’t find similar story, unfortunately..

 

What do you mean?

 

What if I’m just born with huge vagina?

 

I thought we had love. I loved and still love him so much that I thought I can’t love. I don’t know what to do and how to survive this. I’m suffering and no one can hug me and say that he loves me the way I am and I don’t think it will ever happen to me

 

Yes, that’s what I’m doing, you know, my doctor told me that I don’t have a big problem maybe I just want to make it better and it’s okay, she says that it can fix this problem. But, I don’t know???? He is my second boyfriend, I don’t know how it should feel

 

Trust your doctor.

 

Like a previous post says: EJECT
Meaning, game over.

Find your inner strength and love yourself, be comfortable with you, feeling good does not depend on having a boyfriend, do not let a relationship define you.
If you don’t find your way you are keeping yourself in a vicious circle and have only you to blame.
Vagina size? I already said someone will be happy just the way you are.

 

Right. Eject, as in: Get out of this airplane because it's crashing and will kill you!

In more simple terms: End that relationship. Break it off, no excuses. There are other fish in the sea. Better fish.

 

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As my earlier post said, dump this bastid as fast as you can!

FYI, 4-5 yrs ago while we were fooling around in bed, out of curiosity, I tried slowly working my way to get first, three fingers, then four into my wife. The knuckle's width stopped it there. But four fingers didn't hurt her. Last month, I was playing with her pussy in her sleep, and after one finger went in, I eased in a second. Her pussy was just as tight as it was thirty years ago and one birth. It will recover on its own.

 

Don’t know even what to say. I’m lost. A few hours ago we had sex and it was not bad, I’d say bearable, at least he could come, I didn’t, cause I’m always concentrating on how loose or not loose is my vagina. Then maybe an hour ago he wanted more but this time he always stopped because he didn’t feel anything and then finally just pulled out, turned back to me and stopped talking to me. Do you think I deserve it? Do you think I’m guilty and I’m here the only to blame? Like, God, this morning I’ll wake up to go on the third procedure of emsella (stimulation of pelvic floor), I’ve already had laser, I plan to do some other things and he knows how difficult it is for e because it’s me who is incomplete and bad here, but he anyway does it and his reaction kills me. Should I still try or maybe it won’t help? I think he’s afraid to say me goodbye himself, so maybe he just wants me to this, but it’s strange because we talked about it and he agreed that he would wait a few months (2 or 3) to see if the situation gets better, if not, then it’s the end. So if he decides to fight, why does he give up? What should I do? I feel that I’ll never have a person like him, cause I’m other things he is really thoughtful and caring, affectionate, although you won’t believe because I tell only bad things about him here, because we are talking about this topic. I feel some pain and burning down there, maybe it’s just some symptoms after laser… I want to be at ease and be loved, and I want my man to propose to me and have a baby without fearing that after birth my vagina becomes even worse (it’s what my partner told me about my possible pregnancy)

 

All people here, I don’t know you in real life, but men I thank you so so much sincerely for sharing with me your thoughts and stories, thank you for support, it’s the place where I can get it now. I hope God and other people in your life will make you and your late happy and full for what you do.