Marrying too early would be one. People are bound to change as they get older, drastically more noticeable if you pair up young, it's easier to grow apart. Another one would be rushing to commit.
Resentment. It builds up a bit at a time like a brick wall in almost any relationship where honest communication is cast aside in an effort to be non confrontational. Sure, I'll go with you, when you wanted to stay home. That's ok, I don't mind, when really you do. Thousands of little things keep building up until you can't see past them any more and all that echoes in your head are the things you resent. Taking the wall down is suddenly way to much work because you've forgotten what caused 99% of it, and next thing you know it's easier to say good bye than work at something you once valued more than anything else.
Too long with the wrong person I was 17, thought I knew it all, but I didn't. I tried to get out of it a few times in the early days, but the 80s wasn't a good time for women! The last time he hit me, was the last time...I finally got out, and although after over 2years it was the best thing for us both, he won't let go! Not realising the unhappiness is a reason, it's selfish, that's another reason
Its this very first statement that puzzles me Why do they want/hope for it to last forever in the first place?
Obviously because they lack the sense of realism that you possess and don't realize THAT ALL RELATIONSHIPS GO TO SHIT SOONER OR LATER AND NO ONE REALLY LOVES ANYONE ELSE!
years ago when I went to a marriage counselor with my now ex wife...answered this question as succinctly as I ever heard... "the realization that the pain of being with someone is greater than the pain of losing them"
lying at the altar when they say "i do" cheating falling for someone else constant fighting just being sick of seeing that same person eveyday in a nutshell - people who dont marry their soulmates get divorced
I took 2 years to commit the first time (age 22) ...... that lasted 30 years. I took 1 week to commit the second time (age 53) ...... that's lasted 7 years and still running.
Yeah, your second marriage may last just as long. Your are more experienced this time around and probably smart enough to avoid the previous mistakes. Also, from what I've gathered, the social and economic conditions are largely in your favor. That is very strong adhesive.
Marriages end when. 1) Spouse puts themselves first before the other. ( selfishness) 2) Drug or alcohol addiction occurs. (Not stopped) 3) Spousal or child abuse (any kind) 4) Infidelity 5) Name calling and putting down each other 6) When the spouse fails to take care of the other in sickness and in health. 7) The bedroom becomes stale/boring 8) Running the marriage out of business (money problems) 9) No longer physically attracted (wieght gain/loss, surgical deformity/failure 10) When a spouse is no longer willing to give their life in a millisecond to the other. I haven't succumb to any of these on my list in the 26 years we've been together. By reading the texts from my wife today: "Happy Friday...I love you more than ever....hope you are feeling okay going back to work today ......can't wait for you to come home...❤" I can say I'm very happily married and it will not end.