A different way of looking at intelligence. Social abilities rather than numeric. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_intelligence
I consider myself to be quite socially inept at times. Other times I can be rather engaging and articulate. It really depends on the situation and the person/persons I am dealing with. It seems the more "normal" a person is, the worse I fare in conversation with that person. I just have little to say to most people, and small talk seems so fake to me that it can be quite tedious and even draining. I am just not good at putting on a front, even when sometimes I have to. Most people are in a completely different reality than me, so I often hold back my opinion out fear of offending someone or being judged. I find that often it's easier to keep my thoughts to myself around most people, so I feel that most people who know me casually don't really know me at all, even if they've known me for a period of time. I seem to keep my true self hidden from most people IRL, unless I know them well enough and feel comfortable around them. Some people I can know for years and still not feel comfortable around.
Socializing is an art form; it is almost entirely bullshit and that is precisely what makes it so engaging, especially when certain people take themselves and their ideas seriously. I especially enjoy knowing or, figuring out along the way, what gets somebody wondering if they may have just been offended and driving them to argument, and occasionally I am lucky enough to talk to somebody who can spar with my particularly strange and multidimensional use of language. More often, of course, I find myself talking to myself, which I strike off as pleasant enough practice. There is always some kind of tempered hatred beneath the surface of any conversation, and handling this with finesse is what makes a true socialite.
Probably one of the most useful assets to have is social skills. We take for granted that people have them and have a difficult time understanding those who do not. It is assumed if they try harder it is something they can master or do. That is not necessarily the case as the reasons for not having those skills are so varied.
I believe myself to be rather perceptive, socially. I can usually identify whether or not a person is upset, even if they don't appear to be. I am adept at analyzing social situations, predicting why a person behaved in one way or another. I become hyper aware of my own appearance and motivation, which makes me feel sort of silly. Which is why I often avoid social situations. It's painfully obvious how superficial social interactions often are. I can see through the act, the lies. When social interaction is mutually appreciated and honest, I am at my best.
The irony of it all is that most people feel like that. Which makes you the "normal" person that you hate so much.
To a degree I can be like that. It just depends.. I feel that, even if someone isn't as eccentric in the same ways as me, I can get along with them and talk to them naturally, or easily, or whatever.. if they are a certain type of person. I feel in that way there are two types of people.. people who seem ....it's hard to describe because I'm not sure exactly what it is but it has something to do with some people seeming more non-judgmental, like they don't think they are the second coming of Jesus...as well as a general friendliness, even in a person who may be shy, socialy reserved or just not super chatty... and it can be even if a person is totally different than me. I have a couple neighbors that I can talk to that are no where near my age and not much in common with me except they have grandkids near my age and we have all grown tomatoes. lol. But I can talk to them easily...then, there's other people that I just have nothing to say to.
i took a social IQ test when i was in school and i scored a 184, which i guess is borderline social genius. i know a lot of people lie about this online, but it's totally true.
I think I have a fairly high social intelligence in some ways. I'm highly empathetic, I can read body language well, I'm really good at sensing someone's mood. I'm horrible at actually communicating with people though. If I can tell someone is upset I never know what to say so I usually pretend i don't notice. I'm not great at small talk. I get really bad social anxiety and my fear keeps me from connecting with people in forced social situations. Occasionally I meet people i find really interesting or I just connect with instantaneously and I'm pretty good at conversing then. like At mentioned too, sometimes you just meet people that you might not have anything in common with but they're just so nonjudgmental and cool they put you immediately at ease.
