What is your most ultimate idea of L O V E

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Moto, Apr 9, 2007.

  1. Moto

    Moto Member

    We all have different ideas of love and what love should be. I just want your ideas of ultimate (intimate) love. Not the love we have for a sibling or parent.... but for a lover, significant other, husband/wife, ideal partner etc. And even with the love aspect what about the dating stage, what is ideal to you. Putting out, waiting for marriage, going crazy, playing it soft? Let me hear from both men and women about their ideals on LOVE and the "game" of it.
     
  2. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

    hmmm, I am certain that I have found the 'ultimate' LOVE, so I'll share my thoughts.

    I think that finding it and making it happen is one part luck and many parts effort - though I will say that it feels effortless.

    The luck for me occured when I was introduced to Jess by a friend of mine out seeing live music last summer. I was immediately floored by her beauty, which is rare for me. I certainly will see women and think that they are attractive, but my thoughts with Jess were wow, whoever she is dating is a really lucky guy. As it turned out she wasn't seeing anyone, so a little more luck for me there.

    As I went to leave the show that night I said my goodbyes and shook her hand and it was just electric. just a handshake and looking into her eyes - electric. As I walked home, I felt rather guilty about my attraction as I was seeing someone, albeit very long distance, but that doesen't matter. I was leaving the next day for vacation and thought to myself, I'm going to get this girl out of my head and focus on my current relationship when I get back. Try as I did while away, I couldn't stop thinking about Jess and the connection I felt.

    When I got back home I received a phone call from her inviting me to go out for drinks with some mutual friends. I took her up on it and while at the bar a friend snapped a photo of us. As I looked at it through the view finder, I saw a picture of a couple who had been together many years, not that of two people who barely met. I walked her home that night and sat and talked with her for an hour or so, but felt tremendous guilt as I was supposed to be home having a phone 'date' with the girl I was seeing. I'm suprised I didn't completely turn her off to me because I was really akward with my conversation considering the circumstances. So I decided to go home and sleep on it.

    I woke up the next morning and decided that I was going to go for it with her. We met again at a bar where a friend of ours was spinning records and after one drink went back to my place and have spent every night together since. That is really different for me. Typically I am someone who desires a tremendous amount of space. I never feel the need for space with her. I also used to keep my girlfriends very much separate from my friends and family. This is going to sound terrible, but with all but one of my previous girlfriends whom I had spent 8 years with, I really didn't respect who I was dating all that much nor was very 'proud' to have them as my girlfriend. I either felt that they weren't attractive enough, outgoing enough, had too many emotional issues or in some cases all three - so I kept that aspect of my life very private. Looking back I wonder why I even dated them - I guess it was just my own personal need for sex. With Jess though, it is quite obvious that I think she is the single most fantastic woman on earth. All of my friends and family are shocked to see my obvious adoration for her. I think many of them assumed I would be a life long bachelor as never have I shown such love for a woman. I guess when you find the right one, it changes everything.

    I guess what I'm getting at is there is no real 'ideal' way for a relationship to start. I would say that mine was the furthest thing from ideal as it started with my own infidelity towards another woman. What I'm also getting at is that when you find the ultimate love, it is effortless and it changes you some. I'm not saying I'm a different person having met Jess, but I do treat her differently than anyone I've ever been with.

    We are both extremely lucky to have found one another and I NEVER take it for granted for a second. We have such wonderful chemistry and passion towards one another in EVERY way. Our friends comment all the time, even the ones that are in relationships themselves - that the one that we share is the best they've ever seen.

    So, that's my thoughts on the 'ultimate' love - easy to do when you have it. :)
     
  3. ItzJessI3itch

    ItzJessI3itch Banned

    I fall in love easy... if someone treats me like i am there everything and nothing could ever replace me that's what makes me feeled loved.
     
  4. Seeing that person through the eyes of spirit, and honoring that vision.
     
  5. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

    dhs, for me it was quite effortless as well, and who knows, maybe that's part of it

    lets wait around and report back to each other in a few years, and find out if maybe we foudn the secret :tongue:
     
  6. sexbanshee

    sexbanshee Member

    Learning to let go of it when we
    need to...

    in the hope that if its meant to be
    it will return...

    bloody difficult but oh so necessary
     
  7. mlee27

    mlee27 Member

    well, i have been in 2 long term relationships in my short life, my first who i still love to this day cheated on me by marrying some one night stand he got pregnant. i have never gotten closure from it even now he is begging for forgiveness and to get back together, i forgive but i never forget so a reconcilliation is definatly out of the picture. we experienced some of the best loving moments of my life. i am chubby and girls you k now what that means, if your not a size 5 guys just aren't interested at least not the good looking ones)(in my own experience) he loved me for me which i found beautiful, low and behold he cheated, now i am with a new man who is gorgeous and i couldn't imagine my life without him. he is very compassionate, generous and loyal and also 6 years younger than me!! go figure he is my soul mate and my ultimate love. WE HAVE ALOT OF THE SAME INTERSETS and although there are some boring stages in the relationship we muddle through and try to come up with new ideas sexually and not good luck
     

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