what is wrong with this chatmail transaction?

Nonsense, people do that succesfully all the time. Just because some fuck it up doesn't mean it's a nono.

 

I agree with your observation which is pretty easy because this is exactly how I perceive it as well I just read this page http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=468858&page=2 and I had to think of this thead here. Might as well copy this stuff cause I could not have said it better.

 

i agree with writer too...the game...the bullshit....being played etc

all of it

but there is amazing awesome beautiful girls out there too

really cool chicks that dont make you feel like a sucker even when they turn you down

ive been turned down by more than i care to remember. ..

lots of them made me feel like a dick but lots knew how to say no to a guy without the guy[me] losing face or feeling stupid

if that makes sense?

 

Ehh maybe you suck at flirting.

Maybe I suck at flirting.

Because I would have said "you wanna hang out some time" or, since SHE requested YOU, just "we should hang out some time". if she still asked if you remembered her, well I dunno, say yeah? It seems like you both suck at flirting. She tried to put you on the spot with that one, not sure why.

I totally would not have mentioned anything about her still working there, that could be a bit insulting. If you mention work (unless you both considered it great work) I wouldn't make it more than where you know someone from. She presumably knew fuckin' well that you knew exactly who she is.

You could just be totally upfront and by doing this, attract upfront people. It doesn't seem like she's somebody you should bother hanging out with, from what you posted.

I agree with everything writer said about that game. Fuck that, don't even try to play it. There are no winners, just a lot of unfulfilled shallow people.

*edit* I think it's okay to ask people out, or wherever, by text -- IF you are appropriatly casual. But you started things on what was obviously uneasy ground... jokes are hard to figure out online, and so is tone. If you know someone well that's fine, but if it's four first communication, not being calm and in control of yourself, will allow her to decide to revert to playing games. If you start shit like an adult it's hard to side-track it, and if they do, bitch-slap things back into the proper lane, and if they veer off again, abandon them.

And, touché, undies.

 

i don't think he wants to attract guys..

 

i should add that ''the game'' can totally get you laid bigtime also.....but it gets old....the cocaine gets expensive...the bloody kleenexes etc