Is it just my imagination, or is there something about getting older that leads many straight men to want to experiment with other men? It seems to be pervasive and really compelling. I know I am not alone, but I also wonder why. Sometimes I wonder really hard, if you know what I mean. Answers will be appreciated, especially from the Chicago region.
I sometimes think it might be from years of repression of bisexuality. Or maybe the curiosity was always there, but the taboo to act upon it was too great. I personally don't get involved with married men (gay or straight) even if they swear up and down on everything that's holy that they are in an open relationship. California region.
I had a friend who sucked me off a few times when I was 14. He wanted me to reciprocate, but I wouldn't. Long story short - I wound up fantasizing about sucking cock for 30 years until I met up with a local guy who wanted head. I sucked him a couple of times and gradually found others on the net to suck. The point is, I was in my mid forties before I finally did, but I yearned for it a long, long time before doing it. Maybe lots of older guys have been curious for a long time, too, but never had the chance.
Strange how many people fantasize performing oral fellatio. I have never once considered heterosexual coitus.
When I was in my early 20s, I was bi-curious. Never did anything about it, and eventually got over it. (Surpressed it?) Probably because I live in the Bible Belt. Several years ago, that all came back. It was triggered by me accidentally watching a gay sex video. (It was titled "Greek Wrestling"; I had no idea what that was at the time.) I've been married for going on 3 years, but with her for over a decade. NO ONE I know in real life knows I'm bi-curious, and my wife would kill me if she knew. However, I want anal sex. I'm not interested in sucking cock except as a lead-in to that cock going in my ass, or maybe while 69ing or being spitroasted. But its all purely fantasy, anyway. Never going to happen, even though I am extremely horny for a cock to pound me from behind.
You are not alone! I found sex with men late in my 30s damn do I wish I was younger when I actually realized I like cock! at first it was just about the sex but after several years I have finally realized I’m very gay! Still would fuck a woman but honestly the sight of a cock gets me excited and these days so does the man attached to it. No I wonder what it would be like to wake up next to a man just so I could stoke and duck his morning wood!! Fuck that made me hard just writing COCK lol
I was in my 60’s when I had my first experience. I sucked a few cocks, but I am a top and love having a guy suck my cock. I haven’t fucked a guy yet, but I really want to. I just love the way guys get into it.
You and I must be twin brothers. I am hovering around your same age group. I have been bi-oral and acted upon it several times since I first sucked cock at age 12. That is still a hot memories all these years later. Learned the pure joy of mutual head a year away from being a teen. But like you, I crave sliding my cock in a tight, young ass. Haven’t topped a guy yet but I find myself thinking more and more how much I want to fuck a guy. I plan to act on that in the new couple of months. Hell, I’d act on it right now if I could find the perfect sissy to come over and ride my cock.
I too am getting older and I find sucking cock is a very common thing for me. Many men are in sexless marriages and we can only jerk off so much. I would rather suck and swallow a cock so cum isn't wasted.
My first sexual encounter was at a young age with a very friendly 18 year old girl. Shortly after that a friend and I experimented with homosexual oral sex during the common 'biggest dick contest' at sleepovers. It was a lot easier to swap blowjobs with my friend than it was to find a girl my age willing to do anything. With my friend it evolved to me doing most of the blowing. I was always happy to swallow when he came. It just seemed natural. While keeping a straight profile through high school and having mild dates, I continued to take care of my friend when we had the chance. As I grew older I was in committed relationships with women only but between them I would always go back to finding men to fill my need for something satisfying but still taboo. Fast forward 40 years and I'm still stuck in the same groove of wanting to be with men while in a committed hetero relationship. From my experience I think the man-with-man phenomenon starts at an early age when there is no safe opportunity to explore so it gets repressed for years and years until you finally get comfortable with yourself at a later age and realize that feeling good with another man might not be so bad after all. A sexless marriage could be a motivator but that doesn't explain why you would think of hooking up with a man instead of with another woman. I heard somewhere that we're all at least a little gay. From my experience with straight and married men, I have to agree. More than anything, I think the social stigma is what keeps more of us from openly dropping to our knees for a friend. I was hoping the 'bro job' would grow in more popularity than it did.
Let’s face it, men are very sexual. And as we age through our marriages our wives become less and less interested in both sex and helping us out with our sexual desires. Many of us had the common experimental cock play as boys and but it got put away when girls entered our lives but it never really got put in a never again category. Now as our wives have lost interest and we are left with our need to satisfy our sexual desires it becomes obvious to us there are plenty of men in the same situation. Compound that with the dynamic that as we have gotten older we have shed much of the social stigma we were trained to have as younger men surrounding homosexual sex. If they are like me they decided to try it once out of desperation for sexual release and found they liked it much more than they imagined they would. Now I crave it as much as I craved sex with girls as a teenager.
In my puberty times of life and short time after, friends and I would experiment together by jacking off, jacking each other off and a couple of brief oral tries and just being naked around one another. The neighborhood girls had no interests in us. After marriage I didn't have such a need. My wife supplied everything I needed. But I never forgot the enjoyment I'd experienced back in those earlier days. I noticed when I hit my late 50s I started having more thoughts about those times and found myself jacking off thinking about them. My wife was becoming more reserved sexually and our sex had become boring, routine and far apart. A couple years ago i had a friend who would stop by occasionally and we would sit in the garage naked and watch sports. We and are wives were all nudists. We got to talking about how our wives changed sexually, what we once did but don't anymore. After a few meetings and talks things secretly developed between us.
