What is the truth about looking at breasts/cleavage?

If I do, it's in a classy way. There's a huge difference between sexy and slutty. I like to leave things to the imagination. I live by "Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets." I'm just saying, women shouldn't wine about men starting down their shirts if they're going to dress that way.

 

Well do you think that many women who show a lot of their goods are comfortable with staring?

 

Discretion & being a gentleman is the answer --- plus one should not "shit where they eat" therefore work situations are off-limits in my opinion. Yesterday this nice lady had on a cowl neck top, it dropped down perfectly to expose her tender right breast, a red head --- a piece of art that would hang in a fine museum, I enjoyed, did not stare, for the commute of about ten minutes - I believe she knew I appreciated the view & my desire for her. She did not cover or adjust - It was nice for both of us :sunny:

 

I don't think it's really something you can generalize. They may want men to look, but staring may come off as creepy.

 

I agree. I try to not come off as creepy but I know I do sometimes because I've noticed some girls covering up. I hate making a girl feel that uncomfortable.

 

Cleavage does not (necessarily) mean they're not covered.

 

I very rarely wear low cut shirts but that does not seem to stop people form looking at my breast

 

Same here. If you're blessed in the chest, covering up doesn't hide them lol.

 

I don't know about the rest of you guys but now they have ME wanting to see them.

 

Which is partially why I am asking about both the covered vs. the uncovered situation.

 

I once got a girlfriend,name of Bev,purely BECAUSE I didn't look at her boobs.

I was walking past her house,she was in the font garden kicking her hardtail chop Honda,and swearing.
She was wearing a really loose low vest thing,and she was built like a dead heat in a zeppelin race.
I stoped and asked what the problem with her bike was,and I was confronted with a hot angry woman with HUGE norks,most of which were on show [by accident] who told me to 'Fuck off and mind my own business".
I point blank refused to stare at her boobs-magnificent tho they were-and just pointed to my house and said "Well,if you want help,push it there,I'll fix it if I can"-and walked home.

Around 20 mins later she turned up pushing the bike,still giving me the attitude.
I wheeled it round the back,where she discovered I have a Vmax which softened her attitude a little.
Not a lot,but it was a start.
She asked what she could do to help,I told her "Put the kettle on".
Dunno what she expected me to say,but it obviously wasn't that.
Anyway,she did make the teas,I fixed her bike [airbox rubbers perished] and told her to go test it.
Did'nt expect to see her again,but she pulled into my garden around 20 mins later,said the bike was running really well,asked what she owed me.
I said "Get into bed and stop yapping"
She did...at which point I discovered she was a Hells Angel Momma,Yeovil Chapter.

We were together a year,before we amicably went our separate ways.
We had fun for that year,never intending it to be more than fun for a while.

I once asked her what made her get in my bed that day.

She told me "You were the first man ever that didn't talk to my boobs".

[I never told her about the titanic struggle I had internally during that initial conversation,with determination not to look fighting impulse to just 'drop my gaze' for a moment.]

 

From what you describe she sounds like an angry person. The only time I ever look at boobs when I am talking to a gal is when they have cleavage and even then not always and I tend to be sneaky about it.

When she says that you were the first man ever it sounds like she is stereotyping men and making false generalizations about them.

 

Actually,you're on the nail,uhwhy-she managed to get angry about all sorts of inconsequential shit.

banged like a toilet door in the wind,though....

 

I think this is why I am so confused on this topic and similar topics. A lot of times its the angriest women who are the most vocal.

 

Men are programmed to look, either way.

 

I love looking at boobs and cleavage but always look into a woman's eyes when talking to her. I have had some great views when women deliberately bent over to give a good view

My wife has large tits and likes to be looked at, often wears low cut tops that show quiet a lot. Sometimes she will not wear a bra and get the boobie wobble going mmmmm

 

The only difference i see in looking at cleavage or my boobs is maybe the position or angle in which they are staring at me from. I am a small person so if someone much larger than myself is standing over me looking down my shirt or trying to I feel like they are invading my space. Usually someone who is not standing over me will only see my cleavage if I lean forward those people tend to think I did it on purpose but I don't usually do intentional stuff to draw people's eye to look at me..

My H thinks it is my aloofness with men that makes them notice me more if I am dressed nice or sexy.


I would probably wear more sexy clothes if people didn't stare so much. I like sexy clothes but, I feel if I am getting that much attention I should be paid. People stare at me a lot if i am dressed up not necessarily dressed sexy.

i would get my ass kicked on public transportation if I got on wearing something low cut or sexy.


Usually I dress as sloppy as I can wearing shirts that are too big is not at all uncommon for me. Then when people see me dressed up they really flip over it

 

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It doesn't bother me at all because even *I* can't take my eyes off boobies when they are well displayed

If you stare and smirk, that's not nice b/c it might make her uncomfortable. If you look, even if she catches you, I don't think she'll mind