What Is Something You Regret Doing In A Relationship?

For me my biggest regret is something really small in comparison yet I think about it often and it always will bring a tear to my eye.

I remember once that we were trying to find a shop to take something to and our TomTom GPS system said it's right here. We were working on a time constraint though as we had things we needed to get done.

I'm much more fitter than my partner in terms of exhaustion due to exercise. The GPS parked us on the wrong side of the building and we decided it take more time and effort to find a new park on the opposite side so we'd quickly walk.

I remember saying like "we don't have time for this we don't have time for this" and the location when we got there was also not correct. Right place but there was no entry, it was on the other opposite side. And I lost it. My partner was a bit oblivious maybe to the time or my frustration and I basically forced her to run with me. I said something like "cmon we have to keep moving!" And I started running. So she started running.

Basically that's it in a nut shell. Small really isn't it?

I look back it now though and it was her expression on her face that gets me. I'd never really... gotten angry at my partner. We've never had fights or anything. But that look was shock.

Now, she's seen me in every foul mood you can think of and I regret none of those foul moods but I regret the day I was frustrated and took it out on her, no matter how small it was really just telling her to hurry up is nothing, if that's the worst your partner has done you're winning lol. It hurts me to think about though.

So I spoke to her about it yesterday and she can't even remember any of that happening and said "well if we needed to hurry up then we needed to hurry up"

Maybe I feel bad because I got frustrated /with/ her and not just the situation. I feel guilty about that. =[

 

My biggest regret is I didn't marry my wife sooner.
I dicked around a couple years too long, but finally got down on both knees. 28 years together almost 18 years married. Bliss!!

 

You got down on both knees? sounds like you were gone give a BJ.

That will most likely be a regret of mine too. We are engaged for a few years now, but we've been together for... 13 years. At the end of the day maybe it is a different ring and a certificate, but it would still mean a lot.

 

Bought an ex a bunch of stuff and turned down over time to spend time with my gf only to have her dump me.., then i met my wife

 

How much would the overtime have been worth.

To me no amounts of small money like that could ever replace experience whether good or bad. She dumped you yes, but you definitely threw a few good goes into her right??? Well that's a few more to your resume. and hopefully it didn't cost you too much.

If you tell me that overtime was worth 10k or something then a different story.. I'd be more inclined to spend 10k just on whores.

 

I have none.

He deserves it.

 

our first--and last--valentines together i thought a great gift for her would be some surprise anal...

joking of course...worst and stupidest thing I did was back in 2001, broke up with my girl because she wouldn't give me her ticket to go with her grandmother to the Kentucky vs North Carolina basketball game in Rupp Arena...center court 15 rows up? Still pisses me off, goddammit

 

I estimated my over time that i turned down was around 20000. And the time i did spend with her was fighting so good times

 

in some ways i regret having encouraged relationships because of how my need to be alone so much of the time seems to have a negative impact on anyone i'm really close to.
(i also regret, at the same time, however much this might have pushed otherwise wonderful potential partners away.
but never more then i will always regret how much of my life has been lost to those times i was not able to be alone)

i regret having lost contact with any former relationships, or relatives for that matter, whomever of them might happen to be still alive.

actually one of the things that has guided my life is avoiding things that would give me cause to regret.

i don't very much at all regret this making me a not very exciting person.

i've always valued interesting more then exciting anyway.

for everything, myself, others, places, and even inanimate objects whether natural or constructed.

i regret that human life is mortal and waaaaay too short. but i guess that's not really up to me anyway.

i regret never having owned a piece of land where i could build what i dream.

most places in the u.s. probably wouldn't let me anyway. (some if not most of what i dream of building and making)

i regret never having resettled in some other country,

but i know nothing about living in any of them.

i regret there are no english speaking countries who's cultures are not based on pretending to call oneself 'christian'.

i regret there are not english speaking countries who value logic and consideration more then appearances.

i regret having a mental block against learning other languages.

i regret in some ways, though i don't see how i could have responsibly avoided it,
having chosen in a previous life, to have myself born onto planet earth,
to observe, the degree of humanity's potential, to cooperate maturely with the rest of the universe.

(the alternative would have been to allow your planet to be destroyed to protect everyone else.
that was the consensus of the council. which would have been a regretted lesser of two evils.
and never imagine, at this stage in earth's development, there is anything it could do to prevent this)

(i do not at all regret being nutty enough to imagine things like that about my previous lives)

i regret not being born wealthy, but i don't regret my inability to compromise values that would otherwise have allowed me to become.
not for what it would enable me to posses or to impress anyone, but what i could have done for others,
and the planet in general if i had been.

i regret never having gone into politics. nor having had the patience with humans and a thick enough skin to do so.

none of these are really major things, other then not having had a piece of land to play with,
or living someplace where i wouldn't have had to in order to do so
(if such places even exist. but i will continue to dream that they either do or someday might)