love (lv) n. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. Sexual passion. Sexual intercourse. A love affair. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid. often Love Christianity. Charity. Sports. A zero score in tennis. v. loved, lov·ing, loves v. tr. To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person). To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house. To embrace or caress. To have sexual intercourse with. To like or desire enthusiastically: loves swimming. Theology. To have charity for. To thrive on; need: The cactus loves hot, dry air. v. intr. To experience deep affection or intense desire for another. Idioms: for love Out of compassion; with no thought for a reward: She volunteers at the hospital for love. for love or money Under any circumstances. Usually used in negative sentences: I would not do that for love or money. for the love of For the sake of; in consideration for: did it all for the love of praise. in love Deeply or passionately enamored: a young couple in love. Highly or immoderately fond: in love with Japanese painting; in love with the sound of her own voice. no love lost No affection; animosity: There's no love lost between them. [Middle English, from Old English lufu. See leubh- in Indo-European Roots.] Synonyms: love, affection, devotion, fondness, infatuation These nouns denote feelings of warm personal attachment or strong attraction to another person. Love is the most intense: marrying for love. Affection is a less ardent and more unvarying feeling of tender regard: parental affection. Devotion is earnest, affectionate dedication and implies selflessness: teachers admired for their devotion to children. Fondness is strong liking or affection: a fondness for small animals. Infatuation is foolish or extravagant attraction, often of short duration: lovers blinded to their differences by their mutual infatuation. That help?
I think love is one of the most over used words in the english language (though lets not start a competition ?). The need to say 'i love you' is quite a powerful commitment it leads to a feeling of helplesness because if you don't get the response you want you feel rejected . One girlfriend of mine (yes i have had a girlfriend) .. I knew wanted me to say ' i love you' but i did not realy feel that it would be honest ... She pushed and pushed (subtley though) till i finaly relented . Another girlfriend (yes i have had more than one) This never came up .. the relationship was twice as intense with twice the passion (ok sex).. if she had asked me 'do you love me' i would have said 'abso-fuckin-lutlay.. Is the more intense the relationship the less you need to say the word 'love' ? well i don't know ? . I do think people use it because it is a short cut for actualy caring a great deal or just to smooth over deeper more complicated feelings ? Like yeah 'i love you but' ?..I think others have spoken about the other more wistful takes on 'love' .. this is my own ( erm i am not quite sure) take on love ??
love to me is absolute peace that is concentrated between two people. a mutual intimacy that they share this is what i share with a lot of my friends. though if we mean in a sexual sense, it still follows what i said just then... but it also involves all that amazing holding, kissing and whatnot
Subject: What is Love? A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4-8 year olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader & deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think. "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over & paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca - age 8 "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4 "Love is when a girl puts on perfume & a boy puts on shaving cologne & they go out & smell each other." Karl - age 5 "Love is when you go out to eat & give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6 "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4 "Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy & she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7 "Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together & you talk more. My Mommy & Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss," Emily - age 8 "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents & listen," Bobby - age 5 "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate," Nikka - age 6 "There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them." Jenny - age 4 ”Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7 "Love is like a little old woman & a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6 "During my piano recital, I was on a stage & scared. I looked at all the people watching me & saw my daddy waving & smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore," Cindy - age 8 "My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - Age 5 "Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine - age 5 "Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly & sweaty & still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 8 "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4 "I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes & has to go out & buy new ones." Lauren - age 4 "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up & down & little stars come out of you." Karen - age 7 "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget," Jessica
KIDS: AND THE ORIGINS OF LOVE "Cupid kissed God and that got the ball rollin'." Julio, age 9 "One of the Greek lady gods got a crush on one of the Greek man gods. he tried to hit her with lightning and thunderbolts, but he just couldn't get her away from him ... After a while, they became the first married gods. Robbie, age 8 CONCERNING WHY LOVE HAPPENS BETWEEN TWO PARTICULAR PEOPLE "One of the people has freckles and so he finds somebody else who has freckles too." Andrew, age 6 "No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell ...That's why perfume and deodorant are so popular. Mae, age 9 "I think you're supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn't supposed to be so painful." Manuel, age 8 ON WHAT FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE "Like an avalanche where you have to run for your life." John, age 9 "If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I don't want to do it. It takes too long." Glenn, age 7 ON THE ROLE OF BEAUTY AND HANDSOMENESS IN LOVE "If you want to be loved by somebody who isn't already in your family, it doesn't hurt to be beautiful." Anita C., age 8 "It isn't always just how you look. Look at me. I'm handsome like anything and I haven't got anybody to marry me yet." Brian, age 7 "Beauty is skin deep. But how rich you are can last a long time." Christine, age 9 REFLECTIONS ON THE NATURE OF LOVE "Love is the most important thing in the world, but baseball is pretty good too." Greg, age 8 HOW DO PEOPLE IN LOVE TYPICALLY BEHAVE? "Mooshy ... like puppy dogs ... except puppy dogs don't wag their tails nearly as much." Arnold, age 10 "When a person gets kissed for the first time, they fall down and they don't get up for at least an hour." Wendy, age 8 "All of a sudden, the people get movies fever so they can sit together in the dark." Sherm, age 8 CONCERNING WHY LOVERS OFTEN HOLD HANDS "They want to make sure their rings don't fall off because they paid good money for them." Gavin, age 8 "They are just practicing for when they might have to walk down the aisle someday and do the holy matchimony thing." John, age 9 CONFIDENTIAL OPINIONS ABOUT LOVE "I'm in favor of love as long as it doesn't happen when 'Dinosaurs' is on television." Jill, age 6 "Love is foolish ... but I still might try it sometime." Floyd, age 9 "Yesterday I kissed a girl in a private place ... We were behind a tree." Carey, age 7 "Love will find you, even if you are trying to hide from it. I've been trying to hide from it since I was five, but the girls keep finding me." Dave, age 8 "I'm not rushing into being in love. I'm finding fourth grade hard enough." Regina, age 10 THE PERSONAL QUALITIES YOU NEED TO HAVE IN ORDER TO BE A GOOD LOVER "Sensitivity don't hurt." Robbie, age 8 "One of you should know how to write a check. Because, even if you have tons of love, there is still going to be a lot of bills." Ava, age 8 SOME SUREFIRE WAYS TO MAKE A PERSON FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU "Tell them that you own a whole bunch of candy stores." Del, age 6 "Shake your hips and hope for the best." Camille, age 9 "Yell out that you love them at the top of your lungs ... and don't worry if their parents are right there." Manuel, age 8 "Don't do things like have smelly, green sneakers. You might get attention, but attention ain't the same thing as love." Alonzo, age 9 "One way is to take the girl out to eat. Make sure it's something she likes to eat. French fries usually works for me." Bart, age 9
You don't always need to say 'i love you' and sometimes when you do , it can be meaningless to a certain degree. Thanks ...
Well i tried through 'Dear Deirdre' under a sudenym to get it all out of my system .. but it is too intense Dok' , you mean so much to me *sniff*.
"what is looo-oo-oo-oo-oo-oo-oo-oo-oove anyway, does anybody love anybody anywaaaaaaaay?" *crawls back into hole*
hmmmm it seems to me that a lot of what has been described on here is not love at all but attatchment to a person or thing. attatchment is what causes the pain and suffering if you cannot see that person, its what makes it hurt like hell if you are apart and if things don't work out between you. this is not love-this is possesion and is not a good quality to have. it pains me that the two get mistaken so often. for me, true love is totally understanding the other person and only wanting the best things for them, this means allowing them the space and time to be who they want to be, whther you are included in that picture or not. it means letting them go when they need to and not hurting because of it, actually being able to smile as you know that they still exist somewhere in the world and you have contributed to their happiness. attatchment to a person hinders them and i don't believe it can ever turn into true love if this attatchment exists. i also don't believe that you can only love one person, i love many. no, im not in a relationship with many, only one, but the one thing which allows this is that i have let go of all the people i have loved in the past. although most of them are still in my life. to be able to get over the worst and most terriable break up and still be able to wish only good things for the other person-this is love, real love. and it sounds cheesy but its true-real love is never extinguished, it never ceases to exist. namaste x x x
