What if your partners sex drive isn't as high as yours?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by marko, Jun 3, 2004.

  1. marko

    marko Member

    Hey Guys - perhaps you all could share some veiw and thoughts on my situation.

    I have a long term GF, we get on great, I love her dearly and will hopefully spend the rest of my life with her. The only problems is my sex drive is much higher than hers. It is not that she does not enjoy it, I just think she has a lower libido than myself.

    This situation, whilst not a threat (atm) to our relationship does leave me a little frustrated at times.

    Anyone else going through/been in this situation?
    What did you do to resolve it?

    Thoughts and veiws would be appreciated.
     
  2. Dizzy Man

    Dizzy Man Member

    I would say masturbation was the answer. Look at porn, and if you don't want to be unfaithful to her, get a digital camera and take porno photos of her so you can wank off over them.

    That's what I'd do if I had a long term girlfriend.
     
  3. DarkLunacy

    DarkLunacy Senior Member

    Yeah its pretty bad when you wanna screw like a jackrabbit and your girl is.... not so intimate. Now you got a few options. You could bash her on the head and mount her right then and there. Now this option isn't as good cause shes eventually gonna wake up and you have to tie her up to keep her from leaving you and going to the cops. So lets avoid doing that. You could take up physical activity. This is real effective cause you get home and wanna just pass out. Running is a good one for this cause it doesn't cost you nothing (except for paying those guys to follow you around playing the Rocky theme... 20 bucks a month.) Another good activity is lifting (which I need to do again... I've let myself go lol.) That way you get tierd, dont poke your girlfriend in the bum when shes doing something else and get "Swole up". :D You could do what Diz said... Masturbate constantly. But this is kinda counter productive... And meditation is an option...
     
  4. eirek

    eirek Guest

    I usually see that withour exception that men have stronger sex drives than women. You do have a couple options in my opinion. Ever heard of Viagra? They have a new one thats out for women, and think you what you may but it's meant for more than getting up. Get that to your women and she'll tire you out. If she doesn't feel comfortable taking "drugs" or just doesn't want to have sex more often then taking up a pysical activity is one of the better choices. 1st off it makes you more healthy which makes you feel better and of course your girl will also like you more, but it's actually shown that by working out women are more attracted to you and there sex drive increases thereof. Besides that just bare with her is the best bet :) Hope we helped.

    ~Matt
     
  5. twoseeeyes

    twoseeeyes Member

    I'm in the same situation at you. My sex drive is much higher but they are things you can do to turn her on. One is seduce her the way she loves it. Two is drink together, or smoke a little weed, also you can spice up the mood, take her out on a date, and end the night with a lil lovin'. Porn is good too, definitely arouses both of you. I also stress lots of foreplay.
     
  6. HentaiGirl21

    HentaiGirl21 Member

    I was actually in the same situation with my boyfriend. His sex drive was lots lower than mine, so I decided that we needed to talk about it.

    It's so cliche, but communication can solve almost anything!

    Find out if she's holding back for some reason, or if she's uncomfortable about something, fantasies she may have...find out anything!!

    Maybe she'd enjoy a few fun sexual games, toys, or food!

    hope this helps
     
  7. lascara

    lascara Member

    You sound blessed, i have a partner who is submissive to me and the only way I could find around my high sex drive is to get a gf(well I am bi so I wanted one anyways but it is sorted the problem). she doesnt have a really high sex drive but the change between partners calms me down and I can plan and spoil both of them and never get bored, so in turn get a second partner is my advice.

    Ailsa
     
  8. dee

    dee Member

    Sounds like we've got the same problem dude! See my thread "lack of sex is driving me insane!" I know how you feel. I see no easy answer.
     
  9. SoLost

    SoLost Member

    I have a girl like that. She's all cool and stuff though so it doesen't bother me that much. Anyways, you should try something less on the subject., like meditation.
     
  10. hippiehillbilly

    hippiehillbilly the old asshole

    AHHH HELL THATS EASY,,,:D


    YA JUST GET A SECOND OLD LADY,,,...:eek:

    NOW KEEPIN THEM BOTH CONTENT CAN BE A CHORE,, BUT IFYA ENJOY SEX,,, AN YA LOVE WOMEN,, A POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP IS THE ANSWER,...

    LEAST IT IS IN OUR HOME...:p
     

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