what if you always stand up for someone...

or that you need to dance the forbidden dance with a peruvian

 

Hmm well then i'd have to say they're not as good of a friend as you. Annnd...Their pretty much jerks. But then again...Idk, i'd have to know the person.

 

Not be around that person anymore? I can't stand being friends with people who aren't loyal.

 

i agree...i dont put up with friends like that anymore....its more of a war than a friendship and they use u for ur kindness and what u have to offer....just stop answering msgs, phonecalls emails etc....untill they get the point..make up some lame excuse about being busy from time to time..in the end its healthier for u to be with ppl more pure of heart and understanding of ur needs and personality..

im going throu someth similar atm and with some great advice from my brother and close friends i am standing firm and not keeping contact with this person..she tries, but its only for her ego..she doesnt really care so why should i?

 

i'd probably climb down off my cross and get over it. maybe i'd still defend them if i thought it was the right thing to do.

 

yeah right, while they belittle u, to make themselves feel better? perhaps ur a tougher person and ppl wouldnt try to belittle u, but for others it can really suck when u genuinely are loyal to someone and they basically shit on u in return....i just dont see the poin tin wasting time with ppl like that...it sounds like u would actually be crawling up a cross in order to remain friends....or a butt...hehe

 

fuck that shit. i'm saying that maintaining that sort of relationship is just a martyr complex. climb down off the cross and get a backbone.

 

ah yeah i see..good one! With ya now - sometimes so hard to understand tones in writing

 

I would kick him/her out of my life.

 

I know I wouldn't stand up for them anymore... seems like do a good job standing up for themselves if they're like that.

 

yep...

 

I've definitely gotten MUCH stronger since I've had so many enemies and people try and hurt me so much. Only have I gotten bitter... when someone wrecks you deep enough, and fucks with your life and emotions... heh... it's pretty sad, at my age.

 

I wish I could use the strength I have now to help, understand, support and... everything else whoever needs it who doesn't stand up for me... but whatever I guess they don't deserve it...

 

Thing is... they definitely deserve to be hurt like they hurt me... thing is... I hurt them first... they hurt me second... I changed... and admitted my mistakes... and apoligized... and been really, really, really nice to them, TOO nice obviously, and they just keep hurting me... but I can't keep hurting them... because I don't function like that, I don't get my little petty revenge on someone for hurting me and be like: "fuck you!!" and delete them from my life if I really care for them... and when you ever really cared for someone you don't stop caring for them because they're hurting you... unless you never really cared for them in the first place, or are mentally ill... I sometimes wanna stab them, yeah, but I could never bring myself to hurt them more, even after everything they've done to me, and even if I didn't care... I wouldn't try to hurt them because I'm not some sick psychopath with apparent mental diseases.

I'm sorry, this probably doesn't make any sense to any of you guys... it was more an answer for myself.

 

its probably more harmful for ur friendship if u "sometimes want to stab them"...not that u mean that u do, but the fact that u have these negative thoughts and feelings towards them probably isnt helping...sometimes its healthier to just cut tthe strings..go ur seperate ways for awhile, u can go back oneday and see if things are better and if ur reasons for friendship on both sides are good, time away will help u figure it out... it doesnt mean u stop caring...of course u dont..it just means u have time to evaluate the situation and see if it fits or not...particularly if their is a nasty undercurrent