What do you find attractive in another person...

Ah, don't worry. My opinion is an outlier, in the grand scheme. Even here.

We like having ya here .

But what does hair make a difference in?

 

I had a friend in high school who had thinning hair. Being the straightforward person that I am I asked her: "Hey, do you know that you're going bald?"

 

Ha ha! You big meanie.

 

i'm tempted to say i don't. but of course there are exceptions.

not being attracted is not the same as disliking however. permit me to clarify THAT.

most of what i find attractive has very little to do with human persons of any kind.

i suppose an appearance of non-aggressiveness, more then anything else.

 

Hacking prowess and ample butts.

 

Ample butts ftw

 

Yes, plenty of butts is a plus. Lol

 

There is this girl who sits next to me in my DDP class that is so fucking cute. She's 24, is really petite, and has a very pretty face, but also appears to not be high-maintenance and is very down-to-earth and easy to talk to. In the past two weeks I have really kind of hit it off with her, but I am not sure it will go any further than that. The thing that sucks is that she smokes. It's not a dealbreaker, but it's definitely a turn off because I think cigarettes are fucking nasty as hell. Anyway, this girl has been on my mind a lot today.

 

Don't you have a girlfriend? what's a DDP class?

 

I did have a girlfriend, but it was more a "friends with benefits" kind of thing. We're still friends, I just haven't been having sex with her.

DDP stands for Drinking Driver Program. It's the bullshit class I have to take to get my license back, as well as keep my restricted use license in the meantime. Anyone in New York State who is elligible for a conditional or restricted use license has to take this class as a condition of said license(s). The name of the class implies that it is for people with alcohol-related offenses, but people who have been convicted of DWAI-drugs charges, as is the case with myself, have to take it as well if they want a restricted use license, as well as get their regular, unrestricted license back before their suspension period ends. I am three out of seven classes into the program so far, so I have another four classes left. I conclude the program on the 15th of March, and then I can apply to get my full license reinstated.

 

:iagree:

 

I've found that the less I do with my hair the better it looks and feels. I grew up basically in a salon as well, many family members being hairstylists/cosmetologists...I grew up watching my grandma put on make-up every night before bed. I grew up as a test dummy for new hairstyles, or I was told I was ''trend-setter" and I remember being called a "fashionista".

I grew up being told I would only be pretty if I wore two earrings, a necklace, a ring and the clothes my mom picked for me. I also grew up constantly being told I pretty I was, how long and thick my hair was, etc. It gets to be very annoying. And then every time someone mean or jealous tells you that your hair is ugly or whatever that is the one thing that stands out and you no longer trust anyone who is constantly telling you about how attractive you are.

I was praised for other things too, but my looks distinctly felt like that something that wasn't even mine. I don't even consider myself to be that attractive, I think it's more psychological, I think I was just always happy and smiling and the way I dressed and wore my hair made people want to say those things.

Although I dress and wear my hair in purposely un-trendy ways now, I still get a lot of comments about my looks. I photograph horribly though! I think I am difficult to get to know personality wise and for people to even get my attention they might feel like they have to compliment me and maybe that's where that comes from. But I also hear "you can't take a compliment" more times than I'd like to hear as well.

Personally, I think about 99% of people are physically attractive. This doesn't really stand out to me, humans are good looking most of the time, I appreciate the diversity of looks people have so maybe some of you can't see it, but I've always been able to appreciate different forms of beauty. I've always had an artistic eye.

I've never dated someone or been attracted to someone because of their looks...if anything, I've turned down most of the "really good looking" people who have approached me. What I really like is when you don't notice how attractive the person is physically because their personality is so attractive and compatible and then the more and more you get to know them, the more you're attracted to their physical appearance, in addition to everything else about them that you already like.

That's the magic.

 

You're very attractive.

 

That class sounds like hell, at least you got to meet someone nice there.

 

Here's me attempting to be good at receiving compliments: thank you.

 

From what I know and saw I can say: to me as well :sunny:

 

Isn't that Kinky Ramona?

 

Where is there a photo?

 

gentle heart yes, and generosity, intelligence (doesn't have to be #1 on the list but enough to peak my interest), and manly.

 

Well, basically, I think, it is just something that is there....and when it is there it just is, and when it isn't, it just isnt. No rhyme or reason sometimes, either.