I’ve had sex with a guy before but it was a quick blowjob and done. It was my first time and it was fun. The feelings I had afterwards was shock, proud…ashamed and relieved. Thinking back about that experience and having some pretty hot fantasies today it got me to thinking about what it would be like after having a full on session with a guy. Much more personal than just a bj. I consider myself a mostly straight guy that likes sex with guys occasionally but I don’t have an attraction to men or want a relationship with a guy but I’m not afraid of getting off thinking about a guy laying on me kissing as we both cum. So here’s what I’m wondering. After such a much more personal experience like that how did you feel moments after you’d cum and you’re about as close as 2 people can get?
When I first started having mutual oral in my first marriage with other married men, I did at first feel ashamed, dirty, and even embarrassed. The desires to suck cock kept coming as I continued inward and as I did those feelings left and were replaced with the feelings of satisfaction and I became proud of how well I was pleasing guys with my oral skills as they were telling me all the time. for 20+ years I just sucked cock and then I was encouraged to take a cock up my ass by my present wife. Same feelings of satisfaction and proud that I took his big cock deep into my ass and enjoyed it. It's just sex with me and the several regular male partners I frequently have sex with. Where very close friends having had sex (oral or anal) with each other numerous times but only feeling of friendship.
"moments after you cum" is different for each of us. On one hand, how we identify on the spectrum from straight to gay makes a big difference on how we feel moments after we cum. But, in a way, I'd like to dismiss the labels of how we identify. How we feel changes on many factors in the situation. The guy we are with. Our response to the moment. How good or how bad or how average the experience felt to us... For me, it is a deeply personal moment that I'd like to have last in some sense of afterglow. So- who I am with will impact that quite a bit. I remember one man I was seeing a few years ago... we had some pretty good sex sessions, but I began to realize for him it was all about his orgasm and very little to do with anything else. Now, this man had a way of hitting just the right spot when he had sex, but when he was done, he was done. One time, I was still laying on his bed with a raging erection and experiencing an internal orgasm when I looked over to see him with his pants on already - When I left the house, I looked at the clock and realized this had been the epitome of slam, bam and I didn't get even as much as a thank-you-man. Now, how do you think I felt? And why do you think it took me awhile to sort through that and decide I was done with him? These days I am seeing a man who invites me in, serves me a drink, we kiss, we talk, we take our clothes off and we go to his bedroom... we make love. and it lasts for the evening, for a few hours of all that goes with full on session... we screw, we rest - have another drink, talk, kiss, and we screw again. We are in the truest sense "friends with benefits". I was talking with another guy who wanted to visit me and he was negotiating for mutual oral - with nothing else - I suck him. He sucks me. I told him that I'd be glad to give him blow job but he didn't need to reciprocate. He was disappointed and wanted to know why I didn't want him to suck me off - I explained that, for me, I don't enjoy bang and go sex. He finally agreed and wished he could experience more with me... So, over time - I'll say this. How I feel moments after I cum have become more important to me. I think how you will feel will and could change, depending on a whole lot of factors, too. I don't' think you should beat yourself up if you feel guilt or shame or dirty, and if you feel giddy or shocked or happy - just roll with it, process it and move on. Most men approach sex differently depending on who they are with and what they are doing.
For me, it's not romance or cuddling or kissing. For me, it's a release of pent up sexual desires. I enjoy the act(s) themselves. I enjoy cum. I enjoy cock. I enjoy the act and process of sucking cock to a creamy finish as well as being sucked to an explosive conclusion. I have another bi married male who feels the same way. We don't want or need the cuddling/kissing as much as the release and eroticism of 5he moment.
I'm way too romantic and all that for my own good. I love being with a man. love snuggling him. must be I missed something as a kid. I don't know
