What do you do when your mood isn't good.

Either when you are angry, disappointed/unhappy at something, whatever negative feelings? I mean when your mood is at an extreme level?

Do you exercise, drink, socialise, talk to friends, focus on a hobby/work, or even sleep, do relaxation or meditation stuff? Or something completely different.

Is your mood and outlook always on an "even keel"? Or do certain things cause it to alter dramatically?

Are you happy with your "emotional intelligence". I mean, do you control your mindset and understand your own personal psychology or not?

 

When the situation is something that can't be fixed or controlled, I just do whatever seems right at the time. I don't really have a plan of action, but I might exercise, try and distract myself, or sit and brood.

 

Interesting. I always (well nearly always!) remain ice cool on the surface.
But I could actually be seething with rage/resentment/sadness or whatever.

When I'm in a really bad mood, I could stay like it for days not hours.
Then there's long term feelings that could last longer again, but they will spike and fall on certain occurrences.

 

I'm the opposite. I dislike mysteries. If I'm upset, I don't hide it. I don't appreciate passive aggression, either. Just tell me what I did!

What is an example of something that would make you seethe for days?

 

I usually log on to HF and bitch people out for being idiots. That, or lift heavy shit.

In the past I took the drug and alcohol route. I don't do that much anymore.

 

I let it pass. Feelings come and go like the waves of the ocean. Just let it happen and it will be gone soon. tho sometimes..sometimes I have to sing. or say a mantra. To chill out.

I do not like these states. Im not sure that I like feelings to be honest. one side is heaven the other is hell and if you want to experience on you will have to experience the other too..
All contaminated things and events are unsatisfactory.

 

I don't get in bad moods often, but in the past I would go for a walk or read a book. I find myself coming to HF more often now good mood or not, ha.

 

Hmm, say for example something work related. A betrayal of some kind eg by a friend or relative/business colleague. Various different things. Really, ones that require a solution, which can't be applied instantly. Something where its maybe not practical or wise to display your feelings openly.

So I try and be all about problem solving.

I've retired from HF bitching hehe

Exercise is an ok one sometimes. I can imagine my kick bag is an enemy..
Altho sometimes it just makes me tired... with a shit mood.

 

i go for a drive..and listen to the oldies station

or go do some work

 

:2thumbsup:

 

It depends on my mood. I've worked hella hard at emotional intelligence, so yeah, I go the yoga/meditation route often, or the cold shower route, or drink plenty of water/eat simple healthy foods, listen to healing music, or get creative with art/dance/music, or get focused on something work related or very intentionally engage with my kids, or go outside or do some strenuous exercise, or journal or find social support, it really depends, but I think over the years I've gotten pretty good at noticing when I'm in a bad place and realizing what I need to do to get out of it.

About once or twice a year though, I just wallow. Last year I had one period where I numbed myself and one period where I just laid in bed and did nothing but writing. I think I'll be better at it this year. I totally believe in preventative emotional upkeep.

 

I think I'd pass on that one. Did it in the past. Not an ideal one for me : )

wcw and gendorf, thats all a bit zen buddhist for me. I could see myself meeting the Dalai Llama, waving my hands in the air and yelling "Do you expect me to keep saying Omm and waiting for this Nirvana shit to appear all fucking day" : )

 

My ability to rationalize my own emotions doesn't mean that I can always manage them effectively.

Honestly though, its situational. For the most part, I keep them inside or to myself. I tend to lash out when I've had "enough" of something.

Also, when I'm in a very bad or serious mood I just get quiet and prefer to be alone. I tinker with things, or I lay on my bed and stare at the ceiling until I'm calm. I used to have a boss (worked with her for 7 years) who knew when I was upset because I would retreat to my part of the office and work alone.

 

I tend to remain on a fairly even keel as far as emotions. It actually takes a lot to push my buttons enough to become angry or frustrated.

When it does happen I tend to get and stay very quiet as I really do not like how I become if I do not and then tend to regret being upset and blowing. Very few things in life are worth being that upset over and over reacting is far too easy to do when upset.

If in that state I will usually exercise, do yoga and meditate or cook. That tends to bring me out of it very quickly.

 

I honestly tend to isolate myself.I like to watch a movie, maybe go for a walk in the woods with my dog, smoke a joint, sit in the sun if it's nice out, and just reflect on the whole situation.
It always passes. It's just a matter of waiting it out.

 

yeah that's why I feel like preventative stuff is really powerful, as long as I take care of my needs well, i don't get upset, but if I indulge in anything, even work, I forget to sleep enough, eat enough, exercise enough, socialize enough, etc. and if one of those things becomes a habit I get thrown off balance.

I forgot to mention cleaning and organizing and scheduling/planning are powerful tools for getting me out of a bad mood.

 

I am usually in a pretty good mood. I try not to sweat the small stuff and I also try to focus on things that I can actually do something about. If there is nothing I can do about something, I'm not going to spend much time getting pissed off about it and mulling. I'll worry about it when I can do something about it. No sense in ruining my day over it.

 

i go to arby's.

 

I usually let it build up, then unleash the fury at practice. Angry music helps too.

 

i put the death and black metal on blast!