In an annulment you must state that you never loved the other person. My uncle got a divorce after 30 years and 5 kids in the Catholic church and he had to state he never loved his wife, to a priest.
I am catholic and never heard of this kind of nonsense crap. Then again not practicing at all and couldn’t care less about religion
The whole idea behind it is that it makes for a stronger connection between the two first timers, vs two non virgins. I’ve seen the example they give us passing a piece of tape around from person to person and notice how much less the tape begins to stick when it hits person 2,3,4,5,6,7,8. I get it. Watch a girl on her first breakup especially after they’ve had sex. It never was for me though. I mean yeah I wanted it to fall that way but I wasn’t going to wait that long either. Good luck to you OP.
IMO it is an issue of whom we have made ourselves into, by what we believe we are. Yes that may take another read but think about it. We are humans and animals are animals. We in many ways are just like animals, we kill other species of animals just to eat and protect ourselves for an example. Animals fuck, we fuck. Many people read a book and follow the rules of that book and become what that book has told us to become. It becomes so ingrained in us that if someone else doesn't act like what you've become then they seem wrong to you because you believe they should read that same book and become what you have caused yourself to become. Other people read other books and the same occurs and in many ways battles begin whether verbal or physical. But who is genuine and follows their own gut and does what they feel they need to do as long as it hurts NO ONE. Not too many but I can see there are plenty here on HF and my hat is off to those. So as my motto says: "Life is very short. Live it completely. Enjoy your favorite sex even if society says no. You live your life they don't. Enjoy it, suck it, swallow it, love it." Or you can be who you made yourself to be and masturbate until you find the right one. To me if you are breathing and willing you are the right one. hoot hoot hoot