What am I doing? (update)

That's kind of my point. If you never spoke to each other dropped in for a booty call and leaft that would be different but nobody does that. Even though you are friends once Tab A goes into Slot B the dynamic of that friendship changes. You will find yourself putting up with shit from them that you wouldn't put up with from anybody if you weren't fucking them. I know, I've been there. There is nothing wrong with it. It isn't out and out prostitution but it is still paying for sex. And that is what I meant when I said that everyone pays or sex. It is just shocking when someone puts it in those terms. But I guarantee you that if you look at every sexual interaction that you have had with the exception of masturbation there has been some trade off. For some people their first experiences masturbating are wracked with guilt and shame. Some people never grow out of that. So that is their trade off.

The other thing about this particular approach is that it is kind of like online shopping. You get to name your price. What is it worth to you. The thing is that price fluctuates. Even through the relationship. What you will put up with changes. What they will put up with changes too but that's OK. I have a wonderful relationship sometimes she reads what I've written over my shoulder and comments. Especially about paying for sex. FYI she did say that I made some good points but hoped that they wouldn't be missed due to our soundbite culture.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Which is the point I was trying to make when I wrote this:

Rev J:
This ads a new wrinkle to the equation. I think it is for the best if you add 2 new boundaries to the situation. Boundary one you NEVER meet the kid. At 7 there is a great chance that the kid can get attached to you. That is adding a third variable to the situation that can further complicate a complicated situation. When 2 concenting adults are involved it's cool but when a kid enters the mix then things can go south fast and the situation can get hairy for everyone involved. Prostitution is still illegal and Child protective services look down on that.

Boundry 2 the kid comes first. I know this sounds like an open door to be used but a 7 year old kids' needs come before yours. He has more life to see than you do. The womans first responsibility is to the kid. You're an adult you can go without easier than the kid can. Spell these conditions out clearly with the other person because you are the adults in this situation. Then remember that this is a situation that will end eventually. It can end on good terms.

This is how I would handle this situation. Good luck.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Its the same with me, I wouldn't meet anyone's child unless I knew I'd be sticking around. Its hard on them to have people walking in and out of their life. Plus I love kids way to much to ever put myself first. Their so sweet and no one wants to be responsible for corrupting the little ones.

 

I think in alot of ways we are on the same page but we just express it differently. Even though I'm in California I have that East Coast sarcasm thing that doesn't translate to print. It's like you and I start out doing superficial debates and end up coming into the same space.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

I'm not disagreeing lol

 

we had sex. It's great. She also cooked for me. I got her an interview in my friend's company. Our agreement will end 3 months after she finds a job. So we will "go crazy" right now, at least me.