Well, fuck!

If you want government help you have to establish paternity and THEY will make him pay child support

 

she's clueless

 

so i started getting irritated reading this thread. no dumb bitch should expect a marriage proposal just because she's fucking a guy and gets pregnant, not in this day and age. no guy should get pissed when his girlfriend gets pregnant with his child. he shoulda taken steps to take care of that. both were being childish. now there's a kid to pay for and raise. get over it and do it right.

AHAHA. though all of this has probably been resolved already in the thread, i just got sick of reading everyone blaming everyone else for their own stupid fuckups and disappointed expectations.

 

basically, long story short::

when i found out she was pregnant, i thought, "ok, get a car, an apartment, baby stuff and were set up."

now all of a sudden shes gonna live with her mom or her best friend. she dosent even know yet. but she knows its NOT me.

im fucked. and i never said she wasnt gonna let me see the kid, i said that if i only have visitation, id rather not see the kid at all.

fathering a kid is, to me, waking up at the buttcrack of dawn, getting him ready for school, dressing scrapes and bruises, cooking dinner for him, clothes shopping, fixing broken toys, life lessons, reading to/with him, making art, making music, consoling him after a nightmare, washing peepee sheets, unstopping toilets............... you get the idea. but if i have visitation i will be able to do none of that.

on top of it all, 250 bucks a month? i make about 900 a month, where the fuck would i be able to live?

 

well that is kind of a sucky way of looking at it- I understand what your saying but you can't shove him/her away .. maybe one day you will get custody but you have to be involved for that

 

no, i can see your problem, death. you have a kid that will get the BAREST exposure to you, and when he's not around, odds are extremely good that she's goig to be badmouthing you to the kid all the time because that's what angry people do. me, i'd be torn in that situation. because you love your kid without strings, but in that situation, your kids is COVERED UP in the ones put there by mom. but he's going to need whatever exposure and unconditional love he can get from you. even in the small doses. it WILL make a difference when he gets older and realizes that you loved him enough to eat shit like that. pride has no place in fatherhood.

 

It's amazing how that small amount of Love/Care/Time can help the child (children) bloom......
especially down the Road.
They need all the Good stuff they can get.


Do it.
You and they'll be glad you did.

 

there's been so many studies done on the power of a father's attention. boy or girl, a kid needs their father's love to feel a sense of self-worth and self-respect. a mom hell, that's incredibly important, too. but a childless father, when that father outright ignores them or leaves them, it can ruin a kid's self respect like nothing else. it leaves scars that take YEARS to overcome. a father is so incredibly important to a child. in our society, where so many mothers have to really pick up the slack and do everything we hate to disregard everything they've done. and most moms have every right to feel they're doing a good job. but no mother has a right to deny a child a father unless he was abusive and it's a case of protecting their child. mom's are not the be all, end all of a child's emotional well being. my mother was AMAZING, she sacrificed so much and worked herself to the bone, and i'll never be able to explain to her that i NEEDED my dad, no matter that they didn't get along.

 

ive never met my father. so ill be damned if im gonna do the same thing. but shes making it so difficult

 

well, it doesn't matter how difficult she's being. my older brother gave up a beautiful and intelligent daughter who now hates his guts because he was too weak to want to deal with her psycho bitch mom. he left her to fend for herself, and then, the kicker is MOM left her, too, because "it's just too hard to rasie a child alone." i think she's got every right to be furious with him.

 

This thread is full of OMGBBQWTF that was me?