Weed And Socializing

Man, I cannot do it. In recent weeks I have made really good friends with this cool Puerto Rican chick I work with. We're both around the same age and seem to "click" with each other despite not really having anything in common. We have gotten high together a number of times, and I must say I never really enjoy it when we do. Most of the time I smoke, I smoke alone, and that is how I have always preferred to smoke. I almost prefer not to smoke in social situations, unless it's with someone I know well enough, or someone I can have a really "deep" conversation with about something that interests me. I have no tolerance for bullshit small talk when I am high, much less when I am not high -- even with people I like. Besides, when I smoke with others, I tend to really zone out, and conversing becomes tedious, which can lead to the feeling that you're being too quiet, which leads to feeling paranoid and uncomfortable. Anyway, this girl really likes me a lot, and last night she told me that she "misses me." I asked what she meant, and she said that it's because "we never hang out" (we actually just hung out two days ago). She says that she wants to hang out more than once or twice a week. I should also mention this chick smokes only blunts, which I haven't smoked since college, and to be quite honest she can put me to shame in smoking. I am done after a blunt, but this chick wants to keep going. I can't do that shit, let alone everyday, but I don't know what to say to her without making her feel like I am turning her down or something.

How do you feel about smoking with other people, and do you prefer to smoke alone?

 

I smoke everywhere in every situation...except work. (I lie). I have heard many people say they only smoke alone...never been that way for me and actually, before I enter into ANY crowd...I will smoke first.

For me...I get high and giggle at people, if I'm straight in a social situation, I will be anxious, I will feel too many unwanted energies and will not like it.

As far as this chick....be honest. Tell her you do not like to toke with people, you are a lone smoker and ya don't like blunts. Then I bet you do not have to turn her down...she will drift away to others she has more in common with.


I have only hit one blunt in my life....they are just nasty. I'd go straight before I would ever hit one again.

 

Yeah, I am not a fan of blunts at all. Plus they just seem like such a waste of weed. If I have good stuff, all I need is 2-3 hits off my pipe and I am good for a couple hours at least. Blunts just seem like overkill to me.

 

Depends on the people. Yesterday evening I had a friend come over and we did not much else than smoking pot, listening music and talking. To me a stoner session doesn't get much better than that.

edit: it was mostly bullshit talk

anyway: I also enjoy my weed at parties or with other people. Just not with people I barely know who are not getting stoned and not interested in it. Then I can get uncomfortable sometimes (even when we don't even have to socialize, like the wellknown example of the stoned visit to the supermarket), but usually I will conclude then it is better to save it for later.

 

I agree. It's nice when you find people with common ground. For me, a lot of the time it seems like only an option between hanging around people I have nothing in common with, or not hanging out with anyone at all.

 

Yeah, I used to had more friends to do this with as well (some moved away, or got enough of chilling like this). But I realize I'm fortunate to still have some of them around. I usually go visit another friend when I'm at my parents for a few days: with this guy it is impossible to have a deep convo and he also doesn't focus on the music to the same extent me and others can. There I just get stoned and go with the flow. Usually we start up gta5 online or something. When I go there too often in a row it can get boring (as I clearly notice then we run out of convo material and things to do ). Not sure this is entirely a weed and socializing issue though.... Could be just a socializing issue.

 

I find people amusing and can laugh at almost any situation...then again I am a total goof ball. Not a loud one though...and I don't like being the center of attention at all, in a crowd, I am an edge surfer lol.


Some of my friends smoke and some don't, if they don't, I smoke anyway> I just don't get paranoid about being high.

 

Totally depends on the situation. Getting high with new people, especially when you feel that pressure to keep up with them and to get higher than you are normally comfortable with, can be really awkward and uncomfortable.

Lately I mostly prefer to smoke along. I use it to relax at the end of the day. Although tonight I am going to a party and will probably bring a joint along, but they are all people that I am comfortable with, otherwise I wouldn't bother.

 

I enjoy the company of all kinds of people as well when stoned. But with some people you just have to make a too big of an effort to keep something going, and I can only do that then if I get some feedback. It all depends on the details of course. With my friend last night I don't even need feedback when we're hanging in the tunes and I make a remark about the music or something.

It is also just so that there are still a lot of people who do not get stoned at all or are rarely around stoned people. I don't get paranoid by default if I am stoned around such people. I just prefer not to be stoned around them.

 

Can you just smoke the pipe and she can stick with the blunt?

 

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That's too rational. You must be sober.

 

I was in the same situation a few years ago, became good friends with a girl from work who smoked a few times a day. She'd want to get high everywhere and any time . . . now she was lucky because you couldn't really tell she was high anymore when she did it, while I personally get really obvious facial and behavioral cues that I've smoked pot. It was also expensive to try to keep up with her. In the end I just had to gently explain all this to her and let her know that if she wants to get high in my presence that's perfectly ok and I will join her now and then, but not every time.

Different people have different uses for pot; for me it's more of a treat at the end of the day, for a midnight toke. For her it was breakfast lunch and dinner. Her feelings were not hurt, just be warm and explain it from the point of view of not causing yourself discomfort.

 

With me it gets obvious too. Yeps, those people are kind of lucky.

I am not bothered about this among fellow stoners or at a concert or in a party or chill crowd, but I do feel like that if I would do before or during work. Wake 'n bake is also definitely saved for the right mornings and not a habit. While smoking some pot in the evening is.

 

If I wake n bake the entire day is a write off

 

I can smoke around just about anybody, but being pretty much a loner, it doesn't happen often. Like Mr Writer, a treat at night is my way. I never smoke during day time--it just doesn't feel right. I'd say just smoke what you smoke and let her smoke what she smokes.

 

Well you definitely have someone interested in you, so I'd try and keep her around if nothing else. I'll probably relate to her a bit more, as being the person who can out smoke out a lot of others. I personally never-minded having it to myself for a bit. If you get noticeably high off a couple of hits, I'm sure she's satisfied with you at least joining, you know?

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I actually like weed the same whether I'm with others or not. Sometimes it's fun to be hiking or hanging out with people who make you laugh, other times its nice to settle down by yourself and get zoned. I know what you mean by having those silences while you're absorbed into yourself, which can be hard to have someone watch if it produces feelings of anxiety-- the stoned awkward silience. My neighbor and I, when we smoke like that, we listen to records, and they'll be some 10 min periods where you lose yourself in the music. Now that it's such a custom, he's much easier to smoke with

Plus you're with a girl, I don't know if you like her like that, but I have feeling if she's missing you after a couple days, she just might. Being stoned with a girl should be easy enough to lie with to a movie or something that takes the pressure off of talking.

 

if I'm just going to sit around all night and converse I prefer to do it over a beer or glass of wine. I do tend to go in my own little box when I smoke which doesn't mean I dont like to smoke with others, but I prefer to actually do things, such as toking and taking a hike or whatever. I need something to focus on when I smoke or my mind will wander and I'll have very little to offer in the way of conversation.

I actually can't stand smoking and just sitting around by myself either. I like smoking and being active.

 

I like being with other people sometimes when I'm stoned - provided they are too.

 

Be honest with her. There is no rule that you have to match her intake or partake every time she does. If you enjoy spending time with her then explain to her your issue. If not then it is a perfect reason to stop seeing her on a regular basis.

 

When i smoke ganja now, i get way too high, i was just yappin to sleepy about this. I used to beable to stay high all day as a matter of fact i couldnt go out if i wasnt. But i quit for few years once, and then ever since i get stoney and i am SO stoned and get completely mental. i cant even go to the store let alone drive stoned. and smoking with a stranger which happens somtimes when ur out, i just fuckin feel weird after i am high. like i cant be myself or i am all awkward haha and i know its all in my head but thats just what i gata say wich aint much cos, as u know, everything that comes out of my mouth is poop.