My wife and I happen to believe that we humans are meant to exercise our sexual feelings with whom ever we want. When I met my wife in collage she is the one who got me into this current lifestyle, we have been married for 38 yrs and loyal to each other when it comes to everyday life. We raised the traditional family, own our home and everything about us is basically normal except out sexual proclivities, I have sucked many a cock and fucked many a woman and she is the same. We have shared our bed with some very close friends who think as we do. When I travel is she home fucking other men, absolutely, when I travel am I doing the same absolutely. Have I ever came home to find her in bed spreading her legs for one of our friends, happens all the time. Has she ever walked in to find me drilling a pussy or emerging from a man’s cock my chin full of cum. Happens all the time. So you see it’s possible to maintain a strong marriage and still be sexually fun.
There are so many level of the Lifestyle. But, none the less, it’s a basic human desire. Acceptance to each level is a key component. It’s also knowing the comfort level, in your relationship, with your spouse. We are a full swap straight couple that stay together and play together. This level works very well for us.
Thank you Eddy. We swap about once a month. The only regret we have is we wished we would have started sooner. The LS for us is very casual and it seems couples 15 years younger desire us. We are fit and only drink socially. We are a very laid and easy going couple. One young couple wanted us to introduce them to the LS by doing a soft swap. Even that was sensual and erotic. However, we would rather do full swap. It’s about quality LS interaction for us.
My relationship is fairly new [3yrs] shes 25 i'm 34 and we haven't delved as deep as you describe but it is very true that humans were not meant to be tied down, i'd had threesomes before but current GF was very open to me enjoying other women and during covid we involved many of her close friends much to my surprise
Humans are open sexually in one way but are reserved in others. We are programmed to have sex with multiple partners. To spread our traits around by mating with many of the opposite sex as we desire. Statistics and surveys have revealed that the overwhelmingly majority of human beings have had more than one partner in their lives. Most people have had sexual liaisons with between 2 to 9 different people. Some even more. These numbers are usually set before one settles with one domestic partner for life. We do this without knowing what the future will bring and when that future reveals that the one domestic partner isn't available or enough we search for others. Mostly without consent of our domestic partner. This is where a relationship breaks down and is dissolved. The other side is the number of people who engage in an open relationship. They share sexual pleasures with others not their domestic partner but with approval, even guidance from their domestic partner. It is estimated that only 5% of people in a relationship are comfortable and secure with their domestic partner having sex with others outside the relationship. They welcome the acquisition of their partners other lovers and also strike out on their own. These relationships often turn this way after being monogamous at the onset. The partners become complacent and the inherent need to spread their traits rises. With agreement the partners then begin to add others to their sex life while maintaining the domestic relationship. This is a large disparity between sides as the numbers shown between remaining in a consensual relationship and people who have had multiple sex partners is quite wide. So why the huge disparity between having sex with more than one person going from one relationship to another versus doing the same within a relationship? Social pressure is the answer. Many emotions are involved when interacting with people. A human has emotions of jealousy, security, fear, sadness, rejection, joy, elation, curiosity, gratitude, and other emotions over sex and sexual conduct. Drive into the psyche of a human that one sex partner is all that is needed or proper and they succumb to the pressure to conform. A lot of this is fear based but with some is just within the individuals conscious alone. The human instinct is to mate with many people for both pleasure and propagation of our species. It is the pleasure aspect that controls the permissiveness. Humans are afraid of the pleasure a partner will have with another lover. Insecure that they can't provide that as well. Insecure the domestic partner will find a better life away from them. They have a fear of losing that comfort attained in the relationship. So if they don't allow other sexual partners their domestic partner will remain with them and they remain secure. In conclusion humans are open by nature to many sex partners in order to spread their traits but withhold themselves the pleasure of it out of fear the main person in their life will be upset. We have the trait in us for acceptance and approval and when we don't get that approval for us being us we succumb to living without what could and should be. That is finding pleasure in all aspects of our life even though the human was meant to be non monogamous.
I believe that monogamy was forced onto human beings by religion, then societal laws influenced by religion enforced the monogamy lifestyle. Having taken elective Anthropology courses in college I came to the quick realization that Human Beings are not meant to be monagamous. In the US almost half of all marriages will end up in divorce or separation. Other countries are not immune-Belgium, 72%, Portugal, 68%. Low divorce rate in Mexico-but mostly with very strong organized religion base, lower divorce. But religion cannot be a litmus test either. Putting statistics aside, my personal experience is the high divorce rate of people we know. Now regarding an open relationship, I believe it actually strengthens a relationship, but there must be solid rukles in place. For example the couple must have a solid commitment to each other before engaging in any various threesomes. My favorite is MMF. That commitment must be made clear with the selected lover(s) as well. Second, there must be excellent lines of communication between the married couple. Communication is critical. Sex, I suspect, is the #1 culprit for divorce and separation. That said, and I may not be completely right, I feel an open marital relationship can have very healthy benefits and strengthen a marriage. I want to share an article below and I will explain.
Semen has controlling power over female genes and behaviour | New Scientist I found this article very interesting. It seems that semen has more power than being a vehicle for sperm. Semen has hidden powers, and that explains how a man can become possessive of a woman after intercourse and ejaculating in her womb. That is critical, ejaculation in her womb creates, I feel, a magnetic bond between the woman and the man. Possesiveness can depend on the man's asserive or submissive personality. I have seen this behavioral change and if one is aware as to why, one can understand a man's or woman's behavior post coitus. It's all about biology and procreation. It also can cause, I think, an increased need for sex with a woman.
Great question Roman Lover, we worked hard finding safe and clean couples to play with, it took many yrs to cultivate those relationships. After 38 yrs of blissful marriage we hide nothing from each other. Since collage we both entered our marriage knowing our sexual traits. Now getting up in yrs she has maintained her sexual needs to the nth degree, mine has fallen a little but I still partake in the fun and pleasure of what we call our pleasure friends. The ground rules is that we always let each other know where and who we are with, 2nd a text or phone call to inform the other we may be gone for the night. 3rd is to have fun and enjoy the encounter. Take yesterday for instance, I had things for work to take care of and she said she was going to visit our mutual friend, I got home just a few short minutes before she did and when she walked in I could see her kaki pants were a little wet in the crotch, I said either you pissed yourself or you have cum leaking from you. She smiled and said well come find out, I slid my hand between her legs and found her full of sticky cum. She whispered you want that dont you? I went to kiss her and could smell and taste the remnants of a cock and cum. My cock was instantly rock hard as I undressed her. My face was buried between her legs tongue fucking her, as she moaned and groaned she said fuck me cuck boy. When I'm that horned up I am not so gentle, I thrusted my cock in hard and deep and just before I came I thrusted my meat into her throat and unloaded. What a wonderful New Yrs eve.
