We have hooked up before, but how to make a move?

Hi. So i am a feminine lipstick lesbian, in college. This girl came into my life about 5 months ago. We are both girly. We vibed right away, and a few weeks later we had a 3sum with a guy. It definitely confirmed the vibe i had been feeling about her. When the guy left the room, she charged on me and we hooked up just us for about 5-10 min while he was in the bathroom. it was amazing <3. Lol well so yeah from there on out we have been making out almost every night that we go out and drink together. The thing i really like about her though is we can talk about the stuff we do , the day after while we are sober. She doesnt know im a lesbian, but she definitely knows im not straight, and i feel the same way about her. The only problem is though it seems we need to "use boys" to justify us hooking up. and i totally understand because there isnt as much pressure if guys are watching. But its clear we are both very much into eachother, even when guys are present, or we have 3sums, the intensity of our makeouts is nothing like when either of us will kiss the guys. We text all the time, she calls me many times throughout the day. ( speaking of i just got a text from her..lol). ANd we late night text alot, being flirty and saying goodnite to eachother. She's said to me " can i have a hug and a kiss?" lol!....and of course we have many names for eachother ( affectionate spanish names )... She gets jealous when i will even hug other ppl, wtf? but yet she can do the same so that bothers me and she still hooks up with guys, which is totally fine but then why does she get jealous if i go with other ppl?. Neither of us really know what eachother's sexuality is , which i am fine with lol. Oh yeah and she is Latina, if that helps. You know that whole machisimo culture. She definitely has some insecurity issues.

Soooo my question is, how do i make a move when it is just us? This is definitely beyond a friendship, but i am just too scared to flat out make a move on her, when we are hanging out 1 on 1. Except one time we came back to ehr place super drunk and she started serenading me to a spanish song, and brushing her hand upon my face and my body..it was heaven lol.
We do hangout 1 on 1, but im a feminine lesbian and im too scared to make a 1st move, and i know shes scared too...But i always have this worry in the back of my head like what if a make a move and she is creeped out or rejects it? I also like dont want her to think im weird or something... She has texted me " Rawrr...lets have a 3sum tonight" and the thing thats funny is neither of us care who the guy is, its so clear that we just have to use it so that it allows us 2 to hook up....lol sooooo what is your advice on how to go about getting us to hook up 1 on 1?

thanks!

 

Text back, either now or sometime, and tell her something like "hm, maybe, but you know sometime I want you to myself for a while" or something like that... see what she says. If she doesn't really take to it right away you can always just text something like "oh well, I guess I can share you again, hehe".... just make it seem silly and a joke unless she takes you serious... then be serious back. Shrugs.

 

Yeah I agree, the lighthearted honest approach could work really well here! It's clear that it's more her idea than yours to have a guy there. That may be a true hang-up (on her part). If she won't move past that, you have to decide if you'd rather share her or just not have her at all. I guess also the question is if she also wants a relationship with you (as you seem to crave with her) or if she wants a friendship relationship and then occasional sex.

So really what I'm saying is, it's time to talk. It will be hard, but it should prove to be worth it!