Was I sexually assaulted?

No of course you were not assaulted. This is a big problem if you ask me. this really dilutes the seriousness of those who are actually victims. an injustice is served to those poor women who were really ASSAULTED when this happens.

 

Okay, maybe misleading, so let me clarify. I don't whore myself up. I occasionally wear a low-cut shirt. I do enjoy attention, but I am not an open "flirt" as some may call it. Just a glance now and then suffices for me. On this particular occasion, I was seated in a pizza parlor with another female friend when this gentleman who worked at the parlor came up to us and offered us "free samples," which basically consisted of two huge slices of dessert pizza. At first, I turned to my friend and said, "wow, they're really nice here," to which my friend replies, "chick, wise up," and then motioned to the boobage. I giggled, ate the pizza, and thanked the guy when we left, complementing him on his good job making the pizza.

I don't run out and go, 'I have boobs, give me free stuff' (though I can see how it could have seemed that way). I'm not going to be a bitch and refuse a little thing like a slice of pizza from the guy behind the counter, either.

Now that you know a little more, do you still think I abused this man? Really, I never thought I would be asking that question, and I'm not going to pretend that I completely understand your assertion... It's not my fault he offered me something, but I guess I'm still learning...?

I'm not going to apologize for liking attention, though. It's who I am. Blame it on my distant father, the fact that I'm a Leo, my mother's vanity, whatever, but I'm not going to apologize for it.

 

I agree that they should have seen it for what it was, and I hope they didn't give the kid too much grief over it. Things weren't ever weird after that, so I guess maybe it's a good sign that he didn't shy away from me after that. Hopefully they just said, "classroom's not the place" or something to that effect and left it alone.

 

No. I don't think you abused the guy, now that I know more.

I'm also not saying you should cover up and not flirt. Far from it. Though it may be a rich avenue to explore why it is that you need that kind of attention.

That is different from simply enjoying attention (which we all do) when it happens, if you get my meaning.

I just think it's abusive when it becomes a freeloading pattern and when you demonstrate false interest in men for kicks or favors.

 

So you're saying we all need to be analyzed? Or have I led you to believe I "need" it now and that I have a problem? :willy_nilly:

 

Aw. You're cute.

 

wait, was that condescension? i have a hard time telling.

 

No.

Sorry if that wasn't clear.

I thought the smilie was cute, and no: I don't think she has a "problem."

She was willing to ask without being defensive too. And that was also decidedly "cute."

Lastly, her pic is "cute."

I like the word "cute" though a lot of woman take it the wrong way. Best way to describe a certain feeling.

 

teehee.

 

Thanks. No offense taken. My bf calls me cute all the time! Probably part of my problem. He feeds into my sometimes quite high opinion of myself. But meh. Having good self-esteem is hardly something I'll be complaining about. Seems everyone around me is always so damned depressed :tongue:

 

Jesus Christ. In a mood are we?

 

Amen sweetheart!!

 

like a sneaky little troll hopping out from under a bridge to toss out rude comments. :cheers2:

 

Dart throwing snipers.

 

That's pebble number two for you and me.

You remember the first one.

I shall get my revenge!

 

*runs away cackling and clicking heels together*


wait...what was the first one? i totally forgot. was it brilliant?

 

Surely.

 

You called me a "practice man" because of my screen name.

Brilliant.