I’ve always fantasied about sharing and watching my wife with another man. We have discussed it and even dirty talk about it during sex, but can’t get her fully committed. I’m looking for advice!
My wife and I went to different colleges when we were dating, and she had frequent sex with other men when I wasn't available. After a few years of marriage, I asked her if she missed the variety. She said "no" but I gave her permission to try others if she wanted to, as long as it was just one-time for fun with each one. There was absolutely no way she would let me watch, but she did have a few adventures with younger men. After a few times, she said she didn't want to do it any more, so she has been only mine in the past 20 years.
Our entire 23 year marriage I fantasized about her and she about me being with someone else. We each encourage each other and discussing it during sex makes it better. But neither one of us has done it and probably never will. The fantasy is great but once the orgasms reach their peak we are both glad there is not another human around to deal with. That's the way we both like it.
What worked for us was we messed around with another couple who we’re friends of ours and eventually it just happened. We would hang out a lot and just went a little further and further for over a year or two.
I'm 30, and my wife is 24. We have an older friend from church who's divorced. I'm the only guy Becky's ever been with, and she's curious. She was raised Baptist, and is afraid if Ben makes love to her, it will be adultery. We've told her that it's ok, because there will be love. Becky has had weight issues all her life, and Ben wants to help her feel better about herself. This will be a really big step for her. He's already kissed her some, and gotten her top and bra off, but she's scared. She can't take the pill. We've been careful since our daughter was born, but Ben wants to go bare. What can we do to help her let him?
Becky let Ben make love a few weeks ago. He's been seeing her 2 or 3 times a week, he's like a second husband to her now. Its brought us closer. Its not dirty, just beautiful!
