Wanting children or not

That is exactly what I have told her, that not only can I barely take care of myself at this point, but I haven't got the time (being as I work full time and take courses at night, plus I am considering a part time job or more classes). I'm just not ready. Now, granted, I do believe in myself enough to know that if something happened and I did become pregnant that I would be able to take care of a baby, but it would be more stress than either one of us need and I do believe that babies can pick up on that. Trust me, I'm not going to have children until I'm ready, no matter what my "mother in law" wants. She has other kids, they can have babies for her. I'm not a baby factory. And it is quite obvious that my boyfriend isn't ready yet either. Wonder why she picks the arguements with me though and not her son. I mean he's the one who won't get a house. I'm already shopping for mortgages (for my own house, not for both of us). I'm not in a hurry.

 

I definitly want to have kids. That's one thing I do know about my future: I want to have a whole bunch of kids. Now I need to decide what I want to do as a career.

 

I want to have children...I always have. I cant think of anything more rewarding than creating and nurturing a child. Of course I want to make sure I can properly provide for a child to. I just cant imagine how incredible it must be to feel a life growing inside of you...Hopefully someday when the time is right I can have that experience.

 

i've never wanted to have kids...


but in the Past few months ive had a huge urge to have kids, and i think about it all the time.. i dont want to get Married... i just want one kid... and im waiting till im like 30..

 

See, I guess I'm weird, because I would feel weird and kinda gross to have a life growing inside of me. I mean I know it would be awesome and such an incredible feeling, but it still gives me the willies to think about it. That is how I know I'm not ready. I figure when the idea doesn't make me squirm, that that is my sign that I'm ready.

 

to have children you have to be able to be completely selfless at times, and I know I cant be that

I'm much to selfish for children, though I would love to be the cool aunty

 

That urge you're having? It's called puberty.

 

its the best thing thats ever happened to me! i feel like my life has so much meaning now. not saying that something besides having children couldnt give your life meaning. and someone said something like 'i dont understand why a woman would want to do that to her body' (be pregnant) and in my opinion its one of the single most amazing things you could ever experience in your life. of course at the end you just want it to be over with, but it truely is a miracle. but to each his own.. or her own

 

Hmmm, not that I'm going to do this, so everyone doesn't need to jump down my throat, but as I was watching a documetary the other day on liposuction and tummy tucks and stapling and stuff, I was thinking, it would be better to have a baby young, lose the baby fat, then get your tummy fixed because it really does mess up your abdominal muscles.


Now this has nothing to do with me, because I'm planning on being a personal trainer, and well my abs are pretty much on point, and I would be able to recover, but some of these women looked really messed up after having children and I completely understand why they did it.

She didn't say that it wasn't worth the sacrifice, as she loves her kids, but she wanted to feel "normal" again.

I've heard creepy men say that they wouldn't want their wife to get pregnant because it would make them fat. That thought made me sick.

 

I'm fixed.

 

I never wanted to have children and I will never have them... not in this lifetime anyway. I am also a firm believer in eugenics, as well.

I personally believe that anybody who wants to procreate should get a license to do so and take mandatory parenting courses (there are alot of dysfunctional people on this planet already)... we need to have a license to own a gun, drive a car, own a dog, go hunting, go fishing... yaddayaddayadda.... Why not get a license to breed humans? Too many people breed without thinking it through (just my opinion... nothing more nothing less).

An excellent site to check out if you are considering breeding: http://www.vhemt.org/

 

I´d like to have many many kids (if I can afford it, 10 would be a good number) somewhere in the future. Of course all adopted!!!
I can´t stand the thought of having something living and growing inside of me, it freaks me out!!
No way you get me do this!!!

 

How YOU doin'?

 

i can't have any more children, and my husband used to be so adamant against adoption. for sensitive reasons, he worried that he wouldn't be able to love an adopted child like he would his natural child. his father adopted him, and the far different teratment he received from his father and his father's family than his sister did has been a very painful scar for him. however, his son is adopted, much like dave was, and he has no doubts about his love for his son. yeah, tyler is treated differently than kai, but that's more due to the different relationships men have with their sons than with their daughters. it's just something that comes up naturally. the love is the same, the relationship is different.


so, anyway, since my pregnancy was extremely harrowing, i'm getting a tubal. but we want more children. finally, dave said to a friend of ours, who fosters children, how do you go about fostering children, because we may adopt. it was hard not to cry, i was so happy.

 

you need a license to own a dog? ewww what a creepy place to live.

I disagree, while there are many dysfunctional families, you can't tell someone how to raise a child. My family was fucked up. My mother is slow in the head, and my father was an abusive alcoholic. Yeah I had some issues that I had to get over, but I turned out completely normal. Some people are just better at overcoming hardships. I don't want the government or anyone else for that matter poking their damn noses in my life any more than they already are. The reason kids are so fucked up these days is because parents aren't even allowed to be parents anymore. If that ever happens, I will not only never have children but I will rip my uterus out with my bare hands in protest. Just because you believe a child should be raised a certain way, doesn't mean I do and until you are feeding and clothing any child that I bring into this world, it is none of your damn business.

This wasn't meant to offend any particular person, I just wanted to say how I felt about the idea of parenting classes.

 

I used to not want children, not even as a child. But now as I've matured and seen how wonderful kids can be, and what a miracle it is that a parent can lay out a foundation, and be a guide for their child. Also, I beleive that my boyfriend (very long term) would make a wonderful father.

No worries though, I plan on getting my masters in Councelling Psych and working a couple years before I make that commitment.

 

I've never wanted to be pregnant... if I ever do feel the urge to have children, and it's the right time in my life, and I'm mature enough to deal with it (or close to mature enough, at least) I would rather adopt - take in a kid that no one else wants and give him/her a better life. I don't think I'd ever want more than 2 kids either, probably only one.

 

I read an article recently that discusses how people desire to have children as a means of assuring themselves a degree of immortality. ie. you pass on your genes and you can then live forever, in a sense. It all comes down to a fear of death basically. Don't shoot me down for this, it's just a theory! The same goes for fame though. People want to acheive something that will last longer than their bodies.

That being said, I don't want to have kids. I do want to be famous though.

 

Ahhh yes peach that is a very very very old idea. That is why families would always want to have boys to carry on the family name and often why they had so and so the second, third, etc. Guess there are still some people who think that way, you know how trends go. I personally wouldn't have children for that reason, I think it is pretty selfish and kinda strange. But to each his own.

 

I have four kids, ages 18 down to 4. I can assure you the LEAST "freaky and painful" thing about having kids is the pregnancy and childbirth.