hi everyone, im new to the forum and I wanted to get into doing anal. I have done it before, but it was a while ago and not with the right person, it wasn't ever sexy, it was with condom and a Vaseline. now I wanted to do it with my gf, could somebody walk me through the proper steps. I am a little mixed up between condom or no condom, lots of people say that you can do it with no condom. how does she go about the ass cleaning? what is the best lube? thanks in advance
Using a condom is a preference for everybody, it is safer to always wear a condom, specially if you don't know the other person very well. With that said I never use a condom but that's because it's my wife, I prefer it that way and so does she. Cleaning prior anal sex also is done by many people but not everybody. Girls can douche their butts and be ready to go. (Enema) my wife never does and for 20 years we had only 1 or 2 minor incidents no big deal. You must definitely use lots of lube and be patient with your girl but once it's in it's heaven!
Maximus by Liquid Silk is great for anal intercourse, its thicker then the regular Liquid Silk. They are both great because they remain slippery and don't get sticky or dry out like Astroglide, yet are still easy to wash off.
thanks guys, so Latinoheat... youre saying that your wife doesn't clean her asss in terms of enema or douche. im assuming that she does a take a shower prior and also realeases all her bowels am I right? in terms of lube I have read people recommending different things, some said atroglie while others said ky, and there was a third one I forgot that had some sort of catchy name..
I first had anal intercourse in my early 20's. That was 20 years ago. I'm far from an anal freak, but over 20 years I've had rather a large number of assorted penises and strap-on dildos in there. In all that time I have never had an enema or internal douche of any description. If I don't need to go (and I m potty-trained) I know that part of me is empty, and being pretty healthy, I know its clean of offensive material. I go when I need to go, and i don't shower beforehand unless it's a part of the foreplay. (Though I do have a bidet at home and use it!) Like Latinoheat I've never really had an accident. Healthy botties are clean botties. And yes ....... LUBE!
LUBE: I like to use Platinum Wet silicon lube with my gf. Keep a couple paper towels with you to wipe the lube off your fingers once you're in so you can do whatever you want with your hands. ENEMAS: Completely unnecessary unless you're filming a porn. It dries out the anal tract and isn't good to do anyways. The more lube you use, the better for her, but you can get a little coming out sometimes. Just get used to the idea that you might have a some brown liquid lube in the mix until you get used to how much to use and whatnot. CONDOM: Your call, but if you use one, make sure you don't get any lube on you first or it will just slide off at some point. Even then, a really tight asshole can work it loose. Just to clarify, there is no reason to use a condom beyond the obvious except one: bareback, you can get micro pieces of feces in the tip and cause infection... just make sure to pee afterwards and you'll get cleaned out. I've been doing girlfriends anally regularly for over a decade and NEVER had any issue... bareback 95% of the time.
My BF is a lot bigger than the last man i was with. I enjoed anal with the smaller man but how the heck can i get through the initial insertion with my BF? We have tons of lube and he is going super slow but it hurts. I guess im just not relaxed enough?? Maybe i should smoke a joint! Haha
Honeybuns, you have to work up to it. If stretching with fingers (first one, then two, then 3 over the course of several minutes) isn't enough, you'll need to do some anal stretching. Ideally, this is every day, but can be 2-3 times a week where you masturbate and stretch your ass. Of course, you can do this with a partner too. After a few weeks, you'll be able to handle a lot more. My gf was able to fist her ass after a couple months of this so it works. Also, you shouldn't force it, like it sounds you have been. If it is an intense, sharp pain when he first enters, it can actually causing micro tearing of the skin or muscle which takes weeks to heal and can get infected. Dull pain is okay. Even a little sharp pain is fine. I love giving it to a girl who is forcing herself to take it, but I have to look out for her too and backup or stop if there is intense, sharp pain.
Honeybuns, ive read that you an also put a pillow under your pussy when in doggy to excite you more and possibly relax your asshole
Thankyou for your answers. Now heres a strange question.... Will all this stretching leave me too stretched out!?!? I dont want no gaping butt hole. Haha
Depends what you mean by "stretched out" lol. You WON'T be walking around with a gaping hole if that is your worry... it tightens right back up after use. However, you won't require near as much warm up. For instance, when my girl could fist her asshole, I could enter her ass with no warm-up and no pain, slowly and lubed of course. But she was never walking around with an open or gaping hole. I'm guessing you've heard stories about prostitutes who have been anal raped so much that they wear diapers. And that's the thing... it would take repeated violent ripping to get to that. Completely unrelated to the stretching and consensual anal play.
With anal it's more about relaxation than stretching out. During foreplay the job of analingus is to relax the anus. The anus will only begin to relax or dilate once it's been stimulated, so you don't need to worry about #2'ing you're self. The anus is called a backdoor for a reason. When it's not stimulated, it's locked and with good reason. The tongue is the key that opens it. If you don't use the key, you will have go kick down the door, that's how people end up with broken back doors, ouch! I love women's bums way to much to ever cause one pain, at least pain in a bad way. I guarantee that 90% of the women who had painful experiences with anal didn't receive analingus before. So if you're boyfriend wants to stick it in your ass, you better tell him to eat your butt first. Personally I love eating ass, it gets me rock hard. I mean what guy is gonna have a limp dick with a ass all in his face!
I get a kinky feeling when I stretch mine wide open as far as I can bare. I don't mind a bit of pain.
I don't think it's bad, as long as it's not the bad sharp tearing kind of pain that will bring you to tears. Many guys who wish to try anal with women just ask to stick their dick in. What if you asked, hey babe, you have such a nice ass, can I taste it? If you ask a girl if you can lick her ass, she will not be scared. And once she sees anal stimulation can feel good combined with some clit simulation you will be balls deep in her ass in no time.
When you have consensual Anal Sex foreplay takes on a much greater role than Vaginal Sex does, as the rectal muscles have to be gently coaxed into being sufficiently relaxed to allow penetration. Once the rectum has been relaxed & penetration has been achieved, it is quite likely to remain so, even to the point of slightly gaping throughout the session, but will return to its previous state within a few minutes and if he wants to try for a 2nd time round, by this time he'll probably have to go through the foreplay routine all over again in order to get you relaxed. However, in the long term, as with the way in which you will have learned how best to control your vaginal muscles to you & your partner's mutual advantage, after a while you'll probably become more familiar with your rectal muscles & learning how best to control them as well.
