If you go far enough back in history, Southern white women were actually taught that by their mothers. I wouldn't trade those old memories for anything! Words can't explain it to people who haven't lived it. :cheers2:
A guy i played hockey with last year just got engaged they say they are both virgins. And are in thier mid thirties. Its strange to me but i dont see anything wrong with it. I also know a few jehovas whitnesses that are friends of friends of mine that i would be surprised if all of them had premarital sex.
I'm sure some people do, but it is a silly, antiquated concept. Sex should be explored. Saving one's self does not guarantee great sex or a perfect relationship. Saving one's self merely means one has shut himself off from living life to it's fullest.
i will be one !ha ha and i want it that way , to be a virgin on first night ! and i am a guy ! i am completely dedicated to my princess
My best friend from high school married her sweetheart, both were virgins at the time. Now, 22 years later, they are still happily married with 4 children. She and I have talked about it, and she has no complaints or regrets over the choice they made so long ago. He is a loving and devoted husband and father. They are one of the happiest couples I have ever known. If I didn't spend time with them, and know them both well, I would question the authenticity. They remind me of a newly married couple every time I see them. It's rather sweet to witness. So, while being virgins on their wedding night may not be extremely common, it does work for some people.
In our parts of the world maybe. Did you think of other cultures when you typed that? Agreed, it might depend a little on the situation/specific couple (like, it doesn't have to count for ALL cases) but at first instance it seems like asking for more problems and drama to me.
my point was just that it's not technically too late, not that most people in that situation are actually going to do one of those things. although people do change with time, so i'm quite certain there are couples who married as virgins and eventually did all those things.
A word of caution: if you don't have sex very early in the relationship, you won't know if you're compatible. Once you're in love, you'll probably stick around even when you find out you're incompatible. We fool ourselves and think things will eventually change. If one or both people involved is/are virgin(s), then it's even more complicated. If you've never experienced sex, you yourself won't know what you like or don't. You can't inform the other person well about your preferences.
My wife and I were virgins until our wedding day. Well, believe it or not, it took us about 5 years to really know sex well. Nevertheless, despite being "beginners", we did have sex like rabbits. In fact we just recalled our first year, we had sex the first thing we woke up, another after lunch, and one more before bed. But of course, in due time, after the "honeymoon-year euphoria" passed, sex frequency reduced to the "normal" 2 to 5 times a week. Married as virgin has it's plus points. One is the ability to learn about sexuality together. After 17 years, I think my wife and I are "good enough" in the sexuality department ;-) (Our 5 kids is our certificate of success.) And learn together is fun. My wife was not into doggy the first 7 or 8 years. Then when I had to induced our twin, she had no choice but to assume position. The rest is history. (Leak: She now pose doggy in wait for intimacies.) While the first time was "disastrous", the memory was good. So hope my experience shed some light on the modern "taboo" of keeping the v card.
But I think it should also be said that it's religious dogma (like stuff about certain positions or sex acts that are dirty) that men or women hold, and then take that emotional negativeness INTO the marriage. In theory, getting married in the Christian faith, should be an immediate flip of what is and isn't shameful or dirty sexually speaking, but those raised in households with a lot of dogma, can't seem to shift the emotional stuff instantly once "I do" is mentioned. So in my view sexual inflexibility of the mind and of willingness because of mental blocks, is often the cause of a lot of "sexual incompatibility issues" rather than physical reasons. And that "waiting until marriage" is actually a bit of a misnomer. For instance, we hear about couples who aren't virgins, and start out really good in the sex department, and then the sex department goes off a cliff. So let's change the conversation here, and approach the topic from another perspective and less linear when it comes to sexual incompatibility, virgins at marriage or otherwise. To rephrase: How much of sexual incompatibility is caused by choice, versus biological factors out of our control (size, shape, texture, beauty/ugly, hormone levels).
I often read posts without looking at who wrote the post.....but i always instantly know when iminmyunserwear is the person posting.
Why people cant be realists? Do you even know how much frigid women are there? Lets see the situation like this. You are 18 years old and meet a girl,you want her and love her but since she wants to wait till marriage you wait...You wait till you graduate from college and find a job. Best years of your life spent while masturbating on porn and looking at friends who live their life to the fullest. You hit 26 your relationship are not the same,you got comfortable and trough years of no sex you are more like friends with her. You get married hopping that finaly this special moment is at hand and then boom. You are having nice star fish fuck. Is some piece of bloody skin really woth turning your life in to lottery?
