Virginity issue (im a guy)

If you have serious feelings for her, try not to care what she's done in the past, and just focus on now and a future with her and take things slow. But...if it's not like that just move on. obviously in the past she didn't take you as seriously as you took her, and she didn't understand how important certain things were to you.

 

It seems like women are always trying to weasel their way, and weasel other women's way, out of taking responsibility and accountability for things they do. Yet if a man did the same thing, women would hold him accountable.

If your genders' were switched, I bet all the women here would be saying "Dump him. You go girl. Girl power. Get rid of him, he's not worth it." But since you're a man and she's a woman, all the girls are like "Um, it doesn't count that you weren't good enough to take her virginity and that dude probably treated her bad so she's coming back to you as a rebound." "Look past it if you really have feelings for it."

Guy sleeps with a different girl. CRUCIFIED.
Girl sleeps with a different guy. Excuses, excuses, emotional justification, bla bla bla, stfu plz.

Think about it dude.

If you're seriously in love with her, then fine, move on from it and be with her. But if that's the case, it seriously sucks to be you.

 

I told her i didnt want her to contact me at the time, thats why she didnt. She said she wished i did though, and hoped i would text her or something, but i never did because i was upset.
And me and her didnt have sex because at the time we were both 15, and she wanted to wait (and i did to tbh) until we were 16. She had sex with that other guy when she was 16, so that answers that question.

I'm not sure about the whole man Vs woman thing, im too young i suppose. I think it would be unfair to not be with someone for something they did when i didnt even talk to her. For all she knew i could have never ever spoken to her again, and that was the plan. But i missed her so much, and have never completely got over it.
Like i said i dont blame her for anything, i would have done exactly the same if we broke up and she didnt want to talk to me, and i found someone i like. You cant cling onto the past for too long, which is what i was to her. History, we hadnt spoke for a year, you cant expect her to go, "hmmm, maybe i should wait and hope one day i see him again", i doubt anyone here would.
Its more of a problem with myself, can i get over it or not? Im not as bothered about it now, its still in the back of my head but its not torture.
Then you get all the rest of the shit from a re newed relationship, shes changed a bit, i have to i guess. But its just all so different.
Relationships are so confusing, if i end it now i'll miss her like crazy, shes on my mind 24/7, and thats not even an exaggeration. But if i dont end it, im not sure if i can deal with all these changes.
So after all your generous and helpful replies, i'm even more confused lol.

 

It sounds like you've justified her actions for her, and in light of new information, maybe she was justified.

But if something is still nagging at you in the back of your mind, then that's a clue that there's something wrong with the situation.

Why did you tell her not to talk to you anymore?

 

Because i was heart broken. I couldnt continue talking to her while she was with someone else, i loved and still do love her, seeing her with someone else would have just torn me apart.

 

Wait hold on a second, I'm confused.

You said you broke up with her and told her never to talk to you, because you couldn't stand seeing her with someone else.

Why did you break up with her?

Did she leave you to go see someone else?

Shed some light on this.

 

Did i say i broke up with her?
No, she broke up with me, for someone else. But she wanted us to keep in touch, but i couldnt do that, the whole "just be friends" thing doesnt work when you love someone.

 

Oh dude FUCK THAT BITCH.

Did she sleep with the dude she left you for?

 

Yea

 

OKAY LET ME GET THIS NOISE STRAIGHT...........................................

She broke up with you to be with someone else.
You told her to leave you alone during that period, which is the excuse you're using to justify her giving him her virginity?

Come to Connecticut so I can smack you in the head, okay?

Dude please, please, please, fuck that bitch to hell.

She broke up with you to go fuck some other dude and never fucked you. Dude you deserve way better. Don't waste your virginity on that fuckin' tramp.

 

Missed that in your first post, I change my answer to move on, being used as an emotional crutch sucks.

 

I dont know. You guys can only give your opinion based on what i tell you, i dont know what she thinks.
Atm we are kind of together, i'll take it slow and if im less happy with her than when i wasnt, its only logical to end it there.

 

No dude you need to put your foot down. It'll be better for you and her in the long run. She needs to learn that she cannot use boys/men as emotional crutches and do whatever the fuck she wants and still GET what she wants. You deserve way better than that bitch and that's all she's gonna do is break your heart and yes, she is a fucking bitch, don't be fooled by how sorry or naive or innocent she acts, she knows exactly what she's doing and she's remorseless.