whatever you do, definitely DONT use alcohol. it'll make you do really stupid things, not clear your mind so you can be yourself more. it'll also make you perform a lot worse sexually. you will fumble all over the place, lose the real sense of intimacy, and have no stamina. if you don't feel like you're doing the right thing, its a red flag of your conscience. are you just getting together with girls at parties to do this kind of thing? it is reasonable then that your conscience is telling you that you might be taking advantage of someone. on the flip side, i got anxiety with my g/f who i really love, and loved then, for a while. even though i loved her, i still felt like i was doing something wrong. not like sex being wrong, just like i should be more of a real friend and less of a lover--if that makes any sense. idk if this applies to you, but dont worry too much if you're not the type to just walk right up to someone, use and abuse them, and walk away without any real concept of what you've done or how it might effect them in the long term. maybe you'll appreciate that quality in yourself later when you're more sexually confident.
