Vaginal sex question from 1st timer

I've thought of myself as gay for many years, recently began exploring bi-sexuality, and last week had vaginal se with a woman for the 1st time.

Even though I was very attracted to her, and had a rock hard cock, I found the actual act of penetration totally unstimulating. I have a few "pocket pussy" sex toys and when using them, I feel a texturing of sorts which is very stimulating. I've tried using a condom with the sex toys and they still feel stimulating. But, the real vagina just seemed smooth and loose by comparison and I couldn't
orgasm, not even close.

Since I only have experience one real vagina, I've wondered if maybe it was just that particular one or if maybe sex toys have given me an unrealistic expectation for the amount of stimulation to expect.

Is my description of "smooth and loose compared to sex toy" typical of vaginas?

Are some vaginas tighter than others?

Thanks much for any advice anyone may have.

 

You may get more response in the Love and Sex Section whereby you will get responses from straight guys as well and ladies of course .

Genitalia

For a quick answer and from my own experience yes they do vary a lot . There are also lubes you could try that could stimulate you and your partner .

 

Thanks for your advice!

 

I'll chime in and second Captains response. Women's bodies vary dramatically as one might expect, so the physical sensations with one woman could be vasty different than the next. For me, with women, the experience goes beyond just physical, and physically beyond just her vagina. And all that plays into how aroused I will be and whether or not I organism. With men, it just the physical aspect (other than I have to have a connection, but not necessarily a romantic connection)

When the wife and i were swinging, I frequently had sex with women and would not orgasm. Wearing a condom, which was ALWAYS contributed to that. I can stay hard with a condom, but often times not cum with a condom. But I still really enjoyed the sex and I think they did as well.

So! "One is not done". And, I'd suggest at least a few more experiences with this woman. Could be very different next time.

 

I agree. I'd also add to avoid masturbation for as long as possible before trying PIV sex again?
Vagina's are typically not as tight as anal sex or that from your own hand. There's this theory of the "death grip" desensitizing men to vaginal sex, making it harder to cum. It was also a world of difference, for me anyways, between with and without a condom with women. It was OK, but pleasurable with, and then like the Wizard of Oz going from B&W into Technicolor without!
You'd both have to navigate testing, being comfortable with the risks, and especially birth control.
But give her a few more tries, as getting comfortable & more intimately familiar with the woman, and her with you, makes a big difference, too! Practice may not make perfect here, but it will make for fun!
Enjoy your "practice"!