Unsure if I’m lesbian or bisexual

Haha I’m new here. But I have identified as bisexual for years. But lately every guy I have dated I just get bored of and don’t find a sexual attraction to them. I simply can’t see myself having sex with a man. Seeing a dick makes me uncomfortable and the idea of having sex with a man makes me uncomfortable. But I love to date girls. I never get bored of them and they seem to last longer relationship wise. I love seeing tits and pussy. I can see myself having sex with a female. But I am unsure if just I’m going through some phase or something cause my whole life I have been attracted to females more than males. I have a bf too and I just don’t feel any attraction to him anymore. Idk if it’s just him or if I’m lesbian.

 

Nonbinary bisexual person here. Based on my personal lived experience and on talking to others, I think it's fairly common for some people to sexually fluctuate throughout their life--especially if they're bisexual/pansexual. For example, there have been times in my life when I've identified exclusively as gay due to only dating/being attracted to other femme-presenting AFAB people like myself. I think it's a normal aspect of human sexuality to be more attracted to one gender/body/way of presentation than another. My hunch is that, just like everything else in our psychological makeup, who we want to bone at any given point in time is influenced by our environments, life changes, hormonal levels, etc. I wish I knew of more studies that explored and documented sexual fluidity; if I come across any, I'll make sure to post them here.

There's a chance you may remain exclusively attracted to women for the rest of your life, or a chance that you may continually fluctuate, or other times you may find that it's not you and you just don't click sexually with your current partner. In a way, sexuality is kind of a continuous roll of the dice.

Also, welcome! Always a pleasure to see other LGBTQ+ folks on HF.

 

Welcome! I’m sure you will settle with your preference! Thank you for sharing! As you may find, many here can give some wise input! Enjoy being YOU!!;-)

 

I’m 18 now. I have always suspected I was lesbian in some way but saw that maybe I was attracted to one more than anything. But every time I date a guy it will last a week and then I get bored. I’m unsure if it’s just how as I was with the idea of wanting to give my family a grandchild or something. I just always seem to dream about girls more than guys. For the past two years I only seen women more appealing but I have dated guys more the past few months and I think maybe it was just to put the idea that I like guys too but idk. They just don’t do anything for me.

 

im bisexual but i sometimes worry i might be wrong its normal

 

No! Be who YOU are! It’s you liking not others;-)