A question for the men who practices or have practiced free love and who may have had random sex at festivals: If a son or daughter you never knew about shows up years later, would you welcome him/her into your life with open arms, even if you couldn't remember the mom? I'm not sure if this is the right category for this question so I apologize if it isn't.
A worst nightmare. Eons ago I had a few unprotected one night stands. Gals said they were on the pill so I didn't bother pulling out. All these years later I wouldn't have to worry about raising the kid........I'd be more worried about baby's momma wanting back child support. $$$$$$$$$$$$
But would you welcome the son or daughter into your life or be willing to develop a bond with him/her? And is back child support possible if a child is 18 or older?
That will never happen to me I didn’t go around when I was with my ex And I had been snipped years before I left her. I suspect two women who could have resulted in a pregnancy otherwise One was intentional and she made it known, looking for a sucker then I told her I was no longer able to make babies. The other one mentioned she would have wanted a child from some guy, but no dad involved in the child’s life. I don’t like that.
I wish it would happen to me! I'd welcome them with open arms, but want to verify it with testing. Then welcome them with an open wallet. Well, not too open, the wallet I mean! LOL! I would be both happy beyond belief at the kid, but pissed beyond belief at the mom for not telling me and missing out. Yet sort of forgive the mom for keeping & raising the child? I'd be a happy ball of messed up for months! I would be glad to donate sperm to this day to help a woman out. But I'd need to be known, are photos at a bare minimum. The more involved I could be, the better! I tried helping out an acquaintance, who failed with a donor, she wouldn't get tested until after a year of donating with a few late periods. Then found out she had medical issues. Both her and I had to give up for a second time. Running through the infertility ringer with a spouse, then with a second woman was brutal on me more then most men would have reacted, I imagine. Even though as a male, my tests & part were easy when all was ok on my side, vs what women have to endure. But infertility is two sides of the same coin, regardless of who is heads, and who is tails. I've had a couple condoms break on me in the past, and a few cases of no protection where we didn't care or mind. So, it could theoretically have happened. But when I told each if they got pregnant, I want to be involved (and meant it), I doubt they would not have told me. There have been enough women I've sadly forgotten some of their names off the top of my head, but not the details of the women, when, where, and how often. If I may ask, has this happened to you or a friend? And how did it go? I've only known of a paternity mix up of a friend's relative during a split up, but when back with her boyfriend, hoped it was his and wasn't. It came up 9 years after they married, and a holiday gift of DNA testing brought it out in the open. Surprisingly he stayed despite it all, as cared for the kid & knew wife was with others during the split.
I have had one scare in my life and one possibility but the odds are extremely low there. If there is an unknown love child I doubt he or she would know who I am. I now have sex with many different partners, free love if you will. But I had a vasectomy 30 years ago so I doubt any woman I have had sex since then has become pregnant from my sperm. The first was with the woman I had my first relations with. We used the pull out method except for while she was menstruating and one time when we were hot and heavy. (We hadn't seen each other for over two weeks) That time I dumped my load deep inside at her insistence. A week later she mentioned she might be pregnant. Little did I know at the time she was seeing 3 other men all of whom were married. It could have been any one of ours. She got her period a couple of weeks later. Right before we broke up I fucked her and came in her pussy as I told her I knew she was fucking others. She was upset until I told her I had fucked my soon to be wife not an hour earlier. About a week later she broke it off with me. I haven't seen her since but expect she never became pregnant from me. The possibility was with a prostitute in a Nevada brothel some 40 odd years ago. She was gorgeous and made me feel great. Back then there was little concern about STD's and I had to fill out a form (state law) so the brothel could contact me in the event of an issue. I saw a lot of John Doe's and Mr. Smiths on the register but left my real name and address. We fucked unprotected and I came in her pussy. I never heard from the brothel so if she did become pregnant it was taken care of. Besides, I was one of many who she fucked so there is no telling who would have been the father. Other than those two the 30 or so other women I have had sex with have been after my vasectomy. So if a love child shows up on my doorstep under the age of ten I would object to the possibility and send them away post haste. If the child was over the age of forty I would have to know their history before consenting to a paternity test.
97% of the sex I've had was unprotected with my ex, and halfway through we decided to "go for it" and my daughter came out of that. Other than that she was always theoretically on the pill. When the marriage was over, she confessed to being a sex addict who had bedded at least forty men while we were together, so my daughter could have been from any of them, but since I raised her, I never had a DNA test. As I don't do well with condoms, I have probably used them maybe ten times in my life. Girlfriends all told me they were on the pill, had diaphragms, or were unable to conceive. One used only temps and cycles and rhythms. So who knows. I too would want a DNA test if the unlikely occurred, but then yes, I would accept them into my life. There was one potential girlfriend I had once who confessed on our second date that she had lied to a previous boyfriend about being on the pill with the intention of getting pregnant, and couldn't understand why he refused to pay child support and was angry at her. I never talked to her again after than night.
I had girls approach me and tell me that they want to be a single Mom for the benefits that the states give. Most were successful and one sued me and won child support. They wanted me to not be a part of their life. I agreed. Damn the sex was good. One would not move for about eight hours after I came in them. One got pregnant on our first encounter. Later as I looked at my e-mail I got a JPEG of her new baby. Three of them did that. They knew that I was married and never used anything when my wife and I had sex. Later my wife fixed me up with her girl-friends while she slept on the couch. I went to a wedding and the bride was sticking out and she gave me a wink. I won't tell.
