So, I'm 21 years old and I've never really properly had sex. I'm not a virgin but the few times I've had sex, they haven't been pleasant. I've met a guy who I really love and we're going to start having sex soon but I'm scared. I purchased a dildo and I was trying it out but it just wasn't going in, only the tip. I brought some lube and I tried again, it went in a little further but it felt so uncomfortable. I literally just pushed it in and it felt not very nice so I stopped. I feel worthless because I want it to feel nice. What can I do? I feel like I'm not going to be able to give my boyfriend what he wants. Advice please.
a real life penis isnt an solid as a rock, like a dildo is... A real penis has a little give to it. youll be fine. go use your fingers for a while..
It could be you are very tight, or dry. The lube should help and use it generously and try the dildo again, but more so than that is you need to be able to relax. You can think of a vagina as a muscle and if you tense up it can make it rather difficult and uncomfortable for something to enter. I assume because of your age you've seen gynecologists in the past for yearly's, so I would think if you had something wrong with you they would have pointed it out
Relax...does he love you? Do you love him, have feelings for him? If he is a good guy...let him love you...tell him to go easy, your scared.. If he is a good guy...it will be ok xx
When the actual situation of real sex arises the vagina will become more aroused than when simply masturbating, thus becoming more naturally lubricated & opening more to accept the penis. It's much the same with Anal Sex. I have a Butt Plug which I've never been able to fully insert, yet I've taken plenty of penises of much larger girths.
