Unable to deal with failure

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Bella Désordre, Feb 2, 2009.

  1. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

    anyone else have this problem?
    I didn't think it was a problem, rather a blessing, increasing my desire to do well in life. But then, this weekend, I burnt a pan of cookies (toffee and dark chocolate), threw them in the sink and started crying and screaming. i now know it's a serious issue.
    I also think it's what drives my procrastination. I am afraid to complete something, fearing it won't be good enough.
    I don't have a therapist right now to ask about this. i am wondering if a good cognitive therapist would tell me to try more things and work on how I accept failing at them or ?
    I just don't know. i need a therapist.
  2. seizedbyanger

    seizedbyanger Banned

    if i fuck up, i get pissed and agitated, but i don't really see it as a failure.

    idk, i just deal with everything that comes my way.
  3. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear voice of sexy

    i'm a bit like that. apparently not to the same extent though...

    i don't really have any advice beyond start smoking weed, which you've already done...
  4. nakedtreehugger

    nakedtreehugger craaaaaazy

    you don't need a therapist. just take responsibility for your own life. for your own decisions. own up to who you are and the things you need to work on, and then work on them.

    it's not rocket science. it may seem scary, but it's perfectly possible to grow on your own without spending thousands of dollars on therapists.
  5. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

    You're already dealing with failure. After all, you're still with us. :)
  6. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

    I must say, I do like your advice!
  7. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

    You are so pretty and etherial looking.
  8. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

    That almost sounded like a "low blow".
  9. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

    no, not an option or a desire. I say "omg I wanna kill myself' a lot, but never mean it. Usually it's to express the severity of a situation to my husband or just to be a drama queen.
  10. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

    Now you can't accept not accepting failure.
  11. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

    thank you. :)
  12. Dave_techie

    Dave_techie I call Sheniangans

    I am this kind of perfectionist
    it sucks.
  13. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

    Oh I'm sorry I didn't mean it like that. I meant that she's alot stronger than she thinks. But... there are different ways to deal with a situation... maybe she could consider a different way if she thought about it differently. Question your thoughts, that's what I suggest. :)
  14. Cate8

    Cate8 Senior Member

    ohhhh lets throw cookies together. And smash plates. and um, go egging!

    and make new cookie dough and smear it on each other.
  15. Frieden

    Frieden Senior Member

    Me and you, we are two totally different creatures. I don't mind failing at, to the point where I have very little try. I do not remember the last time I really put effort into anything, and I'm not exaggerating.
    I think my condition is worse.
  16. bluesafire

    bluesafire Senior Member

    you want us to toss our cookies? :eek:
  17. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

    that sounds divine! I miss egging and tping. Highlite of highschool (besides dry humping of course).
  18. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

    I was teasing you, dear.
  19. Cate8

    Cate8 Senior Member

    haha nasty missy
  20. Doesnt seem right to freak out and start crying over baked goods. I wouldnt say you need a therapist but I will say that it sounds as if you are on the wrong track. It's good to have drive to be the best you can be but at the same time you should have a love affair with yourself that is not detructive.

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