Twas the night before Chatmas

YES. camping is a great idea. and its cold now, so he has to stay close to warmth, cant go wandering off. muahahaha. im part of a helpful conspiracy.

 

I try to help, but in the end it doesn't matter much anyway because i'm no role model myself. How can i guide him in his life, when i don't even know what i'm doing with my own? How can i motivate him to go to school, when all my life i was the same as him? I barely graduated. I myself can barely cook or do any of the things you mentioned lol. I hate my job, he knows it, probably why he doesn't want to go to school, something he hates, to get a job, something everyone hates.

Everything i've done and do ends in failure, that's why i get mad at him when he does the same because i want him to do better, he has potential to do better, he's actually really smart and a fast learner when he tries, he has potential to be way more efficient and smart than I.

My dream is to leave, travel and live freely. I hate society for the most part, and am definatly not a people person, it's always been my dream to travel alone because nobody knows me and i don't entirely know anyone else, they know the fake me, but not the real me, even my own family, not even i know the real me. I just feel fake here. So i want to leave, but at the same time.. I can't.. Because of all the issues with my parents and brother, i feel obligated to stay... But how can i stay and give all of this advice, when i don't even believe in what i'm saying?

I just want him to be "normal" to get good grades and get a good job and a nice house and all that stuff everyone loves... I don't want him to be like me. That's why i get mad at him.

 

dude, you're 18. every feels like that at 18. you haven't lived long enough to fail at anything. when you're feeling like that, step back and look at your life compared to the majority of people in the world. your shit job working at dairy queen provides you with a better life than billions of people on this earth... you have to put it all in perspective. i feel the same way a lot of the time, but really, i've got it pretty good.

 

yeah, wisdom comes with experience. i joined the navy when i was 18. it was great, and terrible. i had twins and lost one to SIDS, leaving me with PTSD. my parents were divorced, i have a whole wing of blood relatives that dont understand me at all. its life. its a tapestry of the past. the more threads you have, the clearer the picture becomes.

Better yourself. lead by example. become functioning adults together, for both of your sakes. hmm. i really thought that was a word. sakes. fuck it, im using it anyway.
what a great thing to bond over. you both have room to grow.

 

well technically he did fail his driving test a buncha times....so he was old enough to do that

just sayin

come on orty...suck it up......try and look at what you have as opposed to what you think you lack...

 

My Father is back in the hospital...

 

Im sorry to hear that..

 

any idea what's wrong?

 

Sorry to hear my FIL is there as well......

 

tyson...best wishes for you dad



ortus...you said everyone hates to get a job

wrong...could not be more wrong

i am not alone in saying that i loved many of my jobs.....

you are full of more fucking stupid excuses to not further your situation than is believable


you been trying to legitamize not going to college and actually doing something interesting with you life

look beyond the motherfucking population sign of your town....there is a whole worls out there waiting for you and you are acting like its too hard

boo fucking hoo...we all did it...lots of people have overcome much more than some spoiled ass white kid from suburbia

make threads to air your complaints


they stop in this thread today...take them elsewhere...please


irf you knew how tough some of the peoples lives are in this thread...the daily struggle to feed kids ...pay for medication for serious ailments ...live through horrific circumstances

you would feel like a tool

 

He was just sent home Monday after putting in that pacemaker. Last night he fell and couldn't get up so he went to the ER again... I don't know any more than that at this point. Gonna have to go down there again today.

 

You are not going to reach him by yelling at him, spending 10 minutes trying to set him straight, even comparing your life to his.

You are probably going to need to listen to him for awhile. And then build on his ideas/beliefs by sharing yours. It's not easy and it's going to take some time.

Best thing is going away for a few days with him. Both of you stuck together. Going camping is one of my best ways. First day-lots of walking-stupid talk-short comments back and forth. Give him space. That first night when you start a fire and cook dinner together-that's when maybe you both start to share. You don't push it. You let him talk. Maybe he doesn't.

By the second day...

 

:grouphug: wishing you well

 

ortus, it's good that you care about your brother.

you're not his dad though. your parents may be making bad parenting decisions for him, but that's not something for you to decide.

a lot of your anger at him seems to be coming from the fact that he is getting less discipline than you got, and your frustration with your own life.

it's probably better to focus on making your own life right. you have the right and ability to change your own life. it's not clear that you can do the same for him

it could be that your brother is getting his ass kicked in school or something, and that's part of why he acts like he does. it could be a million different things

maybe you could write him a letter. tell him that you love him. tell him that you're worried that he's fucking up.

my advice is to let go of trying to be a parent to him. be there if he wants your help. then try to make things in your own life right. leading by example and helping him when he wants to be helped are probably the two best things you can do for him

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zxSENC1jCsY"]LITTLE DRUMMER BOY-SILENT NIGHT-AULD LANG SYNE - JIMI HENDRIX.wmv - YouTube

 

not a happy day

 

Looking for work and putting in app after app and not hearing anything back is depressing

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sqy8a-J1dQ"]Van Morrison Burning Ground.avi - YouTube

 

today does suck.....
i know what you mean libra. i have never had trouble finding a job.. all of my jobs i got them easy before. until i moved to the northwest now i cant find a job for shit... it makes me feel like something is wrong with me or something that they don't return calls or anything. i put in apps and call and check on it and everything and just nothing.

Also, i might not be able to go to school this winter term. Finally got my g.e.d and I came too late to go to school this winter term cause of out of state fees and everything.

My baby brother is having serious ear problems. My other brother is being kept from his son and got laid off from work. My mom just has a miscarraige.

My boyfriend and i are arguing right now.

I just feel like FML. right now