19 in a couple of weeks, still a virgin and wondering if 20 will be the next milestone. It's depressing because I'm at the point where 95% of my friends have done it, I'm not one of those people who are looking for someone "special", I actually have a really high sex drive, to the point where I'm now abstaining from releasing because I have some kind of ED developing where masturbating was my only way of relieving my frustrations. I'm definitely not ugly because in my day to day life I have had quite a few girls fancy me, I also have a good body from boxing for years, that has got me close to doing the deed in the past but I've been very unlucky due to the circumstances. The most I've done is performed oral when I was 17, and I once had two sisters ask me to come home with them after I kissed one but something out of my control happened which ruined that opportunity. On the bright side, I'm moving away to go to University in September and obviously parts of that experience are typically wild, hopefully it is the fresh start and opportunity I need to break this barrier. I was recently at the park and walking my dog, this stunning women (early thirties) was in her work out clothes with her dog, we conversed with the general dog-walker small talk before she walked off looking hot as hell and I cant describe the frustration I feel, I just want to walk up and be like "can we have sex" lol. I've realised my brace face and virgin self needs to get over this hump, I'm so sure that once I get it over with I'll have the confidence to flirt with women of all ages without feeling like a boy to them. I'm just petrified this will continue for more years to come, I really don't know what to do and could use some advice please.
Don't freak out, you are not old yet and maybe you are also being a bit choosy which is a good thing, sex isn't everything but when it happens you will think it is,,, then it is,,, but you won't die right away waiting for the right moment. It will happen and hopefully at the right time, I know many who were virgins into twenty, it's not rare, what's a problem is some who are not might have unplanned kids so don't worry, just keep looking for the right one and you are on yer way. A friend of mine waited, even in collage for a couple years till he spotted the right one and they got married. Strange stuff happens.
When you get your braces-off, start working on your approach with women, so you'll be at the top of your game when you do. For now just focus on academia keeping your place at the University you are attending. Dropout rates are high for students not prepared for the discipline student life takes from you, regarding $ issues for tuition, books, rent, food, and also time issues regarding class lecture, homework/study, and general residency chores like cooking and laundry and organizational skills. Focus on that, and just make friends, and just jump on opportunities that present themselves, and use protection when doing so cause parenthood and STD's are an obstacle in one's sex life and in one's academic life.
stop worrying. being a virgin is not a disease. having sex for the first time will not transform you. what you'll realize is that is that you're the damn same after having sex as you were before. while sex can be nice, the only real transformation is that maybe you'll stop worrying so much about being a virgin.
Thank you I appreciate it, I am notorious for being choosy lol I set very high standards for myself and my friends mock me for it. Although I am going to try and be a bit more open.
Thanks for the reply, would you say my braces are a massive issue then? I feel they make me very conscious of my mouth when speaking, but other than my own insecurities I feel a lot of women would say braces don't bother them too much. Maybe they do? Idk, I wont let my social life ruin my studies, being a boxer I understand how to be disciplined and dedicate myself to my priorities. Thanks for your response again...
Idk, I get what you are saying but I feel like I would have a lot more confidence to speak to women, I honestly can imagine it being the line between me feeling like a man rather than a boy.
