anyone felt guilt/stress about their sexual orientation until they got turned out? Trying to understand how your mind works versus acceptance can be taxing.
No sex is a great way to relieve stress, no mater who it's with. No not being able to get any, now that's stress.
i always associated getting turned out was having sex against your will. having it because you are unsure of your orientation is something completely different
For me it wasn't something i enjoyed until much later but allowed it to happen to keep him as a friend for some reason. Some of the stuff was ok but a lot of it was beyond what i wanted. Messed with my head for years until i was ok with not being completely straight
I constantly stressed about finding other guys sexually attractive when I was younger, and didn't have the nerve to approach other men sexually, out of the fear of being rejected. That all changed when I was approached by a bisexual guy who self admittedly leaned more towards the GAY side of the spectrum. At that point, I'd never had sex with another man before. He told me his "gaydar" went off when he noticed me. Apparently "gaydar" is a REAL thing, because since then, I've had several GAY guys tell me that I absolutely DO give off "GAY vibes". Although he DEFINITELY wanted me, he wasn't pushy at all, but he made it very clear that he wanted/desired me. I found his self CONFIDENCE to be a REAL turn on for me. We decided to hang out, actually became friends, and things "naturally" progressed from there. He was the first guy I ever had sex with (it was MUCH MORE than just sex though). He was so friendly, loving, affectionate and confident in what he wanted, and that made me want him even more. He was also the first and ONLY boyfriend I've ever had. I wouldn't exactly say I was "turned out" by him, but rather that he awakened the UNDENIABLE need/desire I have to engage in sexual relations with other men. I really HAVEN'T felt guilty or stressed too much about my sexual orientation since that GAY relationship with him. Although I'm bisexual and married to a woman that means THE WORLD TO ME, I'd DEFINITELY be "stretching the TRUTH" if I said I wouldn't be interested in finding another SPECIAL guy, building something meaningful, and potentially becoming boyfriends... Of course, I'd ONLY persue something like that with my wife's permission.
To me the term turned out means that someone, against your will or desire, told others of your secret bi or gay life.
