My wife is younger aged 45. She has become a close friend with a work colleague the same age as 60. They have become fuck buddies and I get aroused him telling me what he does with her sexually and how much she likes it. He makes me feel intimidated and less of a man as I am to intimidated to challenge him but I can't help getting aroused when she visits him. This leaves me confused
So is the reverse true.?............ I assume that you get turned on when hubby goes out stalking the latest model.
1. Do you feel humiliated by their sexual interactions? Or are you so generous that you allow your wife to receive optimal sexual stimulation from a suitable person? 2. Do you feel humiliated by his accounts of his sexual interactions? 3. Are you actually suffering from ‘humiliation’, or do you just believe that tolerating his behaviour is unacceptable by conventional standards of contemporary male behaviour? 4. What is your hierarchical relationship with him in the workplace? 5. How important is the arousal that you get from this situation? Do you enjoy it? Does it irritate you? Is it related to the extramarital sexual interactions, and/or is it related to the dominance/submission aspect of the situation? 6. Do you want to stop a) these sexual interactions and/or b) his accounts of them? 7. To what extent is love a problem here? 8. Does the situation have a liberating effect on you, because you learn something new about yourself and your wife, and perhaps even feel encouraged to have a more unconventional sex life yourself?
I didn't ever think that I could be aroused fantasizing about my wife being taken by another more capable man but I am...
1) I feel humiliated by their sexual interactions but also feel I have to let my wife enjoy the sex he gives her 2) I feel humiliated that he has the balls to tell me about them having sex and constantly referring to her as my wife as if he's deliberately humiliating me 3) I guess I feel that tolerating his behaviour is not contemporary male behaviour 4) I do not work with him. He is an older work colleague of my wife. They both do the same job 5) I guess the arousal I get from this situation is important as its my way of justifying its ok. Naturally I enjoy being aroused like any other man, I can only liken it to when I was touched sexually when I was younger, I knew it was wrong that another man was sexually touching me but I couldn't help but like the feeling I got from getting an erection. I guess it's related to both the extramarital sexual interactions and the dominance/submission power he has over me. 6) I feel its to late to stop these sexual interactions as I've accepted it for so long. As for his accounts of them I don't think I could stop him telling me. 7) I have no doubt my wife loves me and he makes it very clear to me he doesn't want a love relationship with my wife as he constantly tells me he just likes her body and is always telling me he just wants to fuck my wife and give her sexual pleasure. 8) I guess it has a liberating effect on me because I am learning new things about my wife as I never knew she likes and wants the sort of sex I have only seen in porn films before and I couldn't do that for her. As for me I could never go with another woman. I feel guilty that I gave in to her lovers constant pressure to give him oral so I can experience what my wife gets
I found your complete openness and honesty about your husbandly situation, TwinT's careful, structured and well-worded questions, and your full, clear - submissive - replies to TwinT all very exciting and thought-provoking. After a long, deeply disappointing and sexless marriage I have found myself in recent years dwelling more and more on the guilty fantasies I had long before I was married, about being the "other man" to a willing married couple, in just the way you describe. In particular, as a gently but firmly "Dominant" man (although extremely "normal" in every other respect) I have always known that I would also wish to discuss the situation of his wife and me with him directly in privacy, probably ending with my "instructing" him gently but firmly to expose his embarrassing and humiliating husbandly arousal to me - possibly even with his wife actually present. If you wish, I would like very much to discuss your lovely sensuous wife and the various aspects of your husbandly confusions and guilt with you in close detail, in privacy and trust by secure e-mail to begin, if that might please you ? I am also in the UK, in the Midlands, so I would also be interested in the possibility of an utterly "safe", discreet, careful face-to-face meeting at some point once you felt completely ready. Please e-mail me if you wish, so we can chat - my secure private e-mail address is kaduflyer222@gmail.com.
