Trying Anal For The First Time, Advice

I was looking through this bi section and didn’t find any advice on this.

I have been bi for about 10 years now. I have only done oral, give and receive once every 2 or 3 months, I get the desire to suck cock. More often than that recently.

Lately I have been watching gay porn and thinking about what it would be like to receive anal. Many times I have had fingers and a small butt plug in my ass. But a cock is much bigger than either of these. I’m afraid it will be too much to take.

Looking for advice. Should I try a dildo or bigger but plug first to stretch my ass, or just go for it? What’s it like/how does it compare, butt plug to cock? The man I have in mind does not have a big cock just average, and he has expressed interest in fucking.

 

I'm not a pro but what I do know about the few times I've tried it is that when he is inserting it for the first time it has to be gentle. it'll take time but but once it's in its great for him. In my opinion it's very painful. you'll be bruised if it's not gentle and the hole can tear and bleed if not. Hope the info helps

 

Gentle is the key. I've had a LOT of dildos in my ass. And when it's just you alone with a dildo you can relax and set the pace, and not hurt yourself. But when there's a guy back there with a throbbing hard cock and he aims to be buried off in your tight little ass, things change. And he can start to plunge when you aren't ready and it'll hurt like hell!!!

Here's the best advise I can give. If he's entering you doggy style where you've got your ass offered up high in the air, you've got some anus muscle groups already pulled tight and when he goes to enter he's only going to make the situation worse. Lay on your back and let him enter you missionary or at least be standing if you want him behind you. You can stand and just lean forward enough to give him access to your cute little booty hole. He'll be able to get in without you getting hurt in the process. Once he's penetrated you and pumped a little, you can swap up to the traditional and very submissive doggy position. He can pound away with his balls slapping against yours, you'll look like a pro, and lemme tell you........... it's VERY hot!!!!!!!

 

I can only give a female perspective but I'd say foreplay is the key, you need some gentle anal stimulation with fingers or tongue and then start with one finger, add another and when you feel ready go from there. do use lube, try to relax and start slowly and gently.
I wouldn't say its painful if done well, perhaps a little uncomfortable to begin with but if aroused enough I really don't care.
Find out if he's experienced and don't be rushed, enjoy!!

 

believe it or not but a cock is a lot easier to take than some dildo. i've never had a problem with taking cock, but i still experience discomfort when trying to get a dildo up there.

real thing is different, and you'll know what i'm talking about once you experience it.

don't try to save on the lube though.

 

I like coconut oil for lube. No chemical pharmaceutical grade crap for me. I take coconut oil and use a melon scoop to make little balls. I pop them in the freezer to set them nice and hard, then I like to have my lover insert them up my ass. Two or three melon ball size applications work pretty nice. They melt quickly and I like the idea of being lubes from the inside out, versus the alternative.

 

...find someone experienced at giving anal...not trying to be a racist but black guys seem to do it better...then plenty of lube...& relax...

 

thank you is there a specific type of lube that you recomend.

 

Well thank you all for the advice. It sounds like coconut oil is the best and lots of it.

Unfortunately things kind of fell though and I never got the chance to try anal.
Now I’m starting back at square one. Even my oral friend is always too busy or can’t get away.
So I’m looking again for a new oral friend.

 

My advice is to clean out before with a small squeeze bottle of water with an applicator tip and dont do it laying down.
Stay standing up while inserting it, you only want to clean out the rectum. If you lay down you will never get
all the water out of you and the guy fucking you will have a muddy river flow, you dont want that.

 

I saw a lady at a strip club recently whose asshole was as big as her vaginal opening, I'm guessing that thing was very well used often! She was really out of it on something so I passed her up, thinking she might be an addict and not be healthy.

 

Sounds like she has a prolapsed anus, maybe she has been putting eggplants up there.

 

I've been bi for a long time but married so don't have an opportunity to express that side of me often. A few times over the past 40 years is all I've been able to accomplish. Now I have had a strong desire to be fucked. Never done that to a guy and never had it done to me; but damn the desire is there. I agree that a nice pliant cock would be better than a hard dildo and can't wait to try. Trouble is, like with all of us married guys is finding a private/secure place, the mutually right time and of course a willing partner. Very VERY difficult.

 

Here is what has worked for me. Get used to using a dildo after your fingers. If you are used to being penetrated it will be enjoyable for you. Then lots of lube. One benefit of using a dido first is it gives you a chance to try different lubes to see what you like. When it comes to the deed it's self, go slow. A slow penetration that just gets the head in and backs out a couple of times before going in balls deep will get you ready. Once you are comfortable he can bang away and you will be looking for the best angle for prostate stimulation. Once you find that he is going to wonder who is enjoying it more?

 

I'd think she would have to wear a diaper everywhere. A turd would literally fall right outta there. Never seen any asshole anywhere close to looking like that.

 

Speaking from experience :
1) Start with a silicone realistic dildo with balls; you'll have to search, but you can find one about 7" (5.5" insertable) x 1.25'" diameter.
2) Astroglide is very good, and use plenty of it. Now you can buy what they call a 'lube shooter' that puts lube up inside your ass; it's WELL worth the price.
3) Remember, the reason for using a dildo is to prepare your body for the real thing. I've had (and still have!) some 'knock-your-socks-off' good times with a dildo, but it is only a pale imitation of the real thing.
4) TAKE YOUR TIME in choosing the man to burst your hot-to-trot cherry! Make sure that he is squeaky clean and absolutely DDF safe, so that you can take your first bareback, and feel good about getting your first load of cum in there. And make him understand that this, your first time, is all about YOU, and that YOU will be in control of getting it in. It really is easier to 'take' a real man than a dildo of the same size, and getting the head of it in with minimal discomfort means the difference between crying & clenching your teeth all the way through it, and moaning & whimpering & gurgling like a baby sucking teat for the sheer sexual, sensual -- yes, even emotional -- pleasure & fulfillment of it.
a) Your OWN internal cleanliness can BEST be accomplished by taking a psylium seed powder fiber product for at least a couple of days prior to taking that dick in there. You'll find that it cleans and lubricates your rectum so well that you barely have to wipe after a BM. I take it every day as a health supplement, and so I'm always ready for anything that 'cums' my way!
5) Most of you guys seem to be focusing on the dick in your ass, but remember: the real thing has a living, breathing, lust-driven MAN driving it in & out of you, wanting & expecting to pour his man-seed out deep inside you. Before you even start talking to other men, you should consider especially (but not limited to) things like kissing, sucking his dick, letting him suck yours, him asking you to fuck him in the ass, etc. These things are much better thought and talked about before rather than coming as a big surprise in bed with your first man.
6) This is likely just a personal preference, but it has always enhanced the experience significantly if a man can fuck me in his own bed.
7) There is nothing in heaven or on earth more thrilling, more satisfying, more electrifying, more emotionally fulfilling than cumming hot & hard with a big, hard, slippery dick buried balls-deep in your ass!

So don't wait, but don't hurry. I hope that some of these tips will make it good for yoy, and I hope you will send me a note afterward!

 

Wow, I learned more about anal by reading this thread then I ever have.
I’m going to use all these tips!

 

My advice to you is just enjoy the ride. Your gonna love it. If your lucky try two at the same time.

 

Thread is almost 3 years old, wonder if OP ever got someone to poke him in the bum

 

Probably not. or they won't admit it