True story. Is this called rape?

Our concern for beaten, bleeding rape victims should not be used to minimize other wrongs. The original poster is still upset about that encounter, perhaps he should seek counseling from a professional rather than the internet. Rape crisis centers would have appropriate referal information.

 

Don't be dum.

Anyways, you should stop whining about being damaged and feeling guilty. You're not guilty, so that's illogical. And one event shouldn't cause any damage. Maby you have been listening to Sigmond Froid too much.

 

my son is 14 and if he were taken like that by a 40 yr old woman id find her and punch her in the face. I am sure my son is finding out about himself but being fucked by a 40 old when you've never had sex before is much different.. I think people sometimes remark on things with their adult minds and not their "14 yr old" minds. Although this does depend on who you are at 14. My girlfriend was totally sheltered her whole life so she had sex finally when she was 18! I had sex my first time at 13 or 14. I liked it, loved it, and have enjoyed it ever since! My son is sheltered so i know he would feel differently about it! It depends on the person. I try not to impose my experiences and reasonings on others. It just doesnt work.. differnt people think, feel and act differently. ONE experience can change you forever!

 

LMAO frued. hehehe .. Once experience can change a person. if your preoccupied thinking of something that happened and missing out on other things that are going on around you. Your gonna think differently than someone who isnt preoccupied with it.

rape is unconsentual sex. Period.

Then again thats just my opinion.

 

He shouldn't be all preoccupied though. He should move on with life, "shit happens".

 

How are you getting that I'm bitter? Anyway, if I am it's because I've never had any friends or even aquaintences, but that's in the present.

 

quote :nuh uh. Rape has nothing to do with force. It has to do with consent.


so how was in not consensual if he didn't try to get away..was it her position of power as his housekeeper, ay?


Statutory rape in some countries, but I don't think it hurt our friend any...he's one of my favorite posters on here now, which, granted, doesn't say much.

they also say rape is a violent crime, not sexual, how does this fit that?

 

I am very sorry that happen to you and yes it was rape or for a better choice of words sexual abuse, it's also very okay to feel the way you do about this after all these years, However talking about always helps the memory will always be there but it doesn't have to control you, a good idea is write down on a piece of paper what happen and how it made you feel then read it to yourself and then burn it or tear it up, this might sound stupid but it might help. This women did take clear advantage of your innocence and your ignorance to sex so don't feel like it your fault...
Peace be with you

 

read my post again. (see: tried to push her away, begged her to stop)

We don't know what this woman was thinking. It sounds to me like this woman was in the position of power, and it could have much more to do with that than anything sexual.

I don't freel like reinforcing this, so please read carefully. I do not believe or disbelieve skybird's story. I find it slightly inane that people make their mind up about something when they simply don't have the facts. 'Sureness' based on nothing but a distinct lack of evidence seems to be a fundamental habit to general society.

What I am saying and doing in my posts is offering my support to anything/one that needs it.
If he's telling the truth, it logically and legally was a case of sexual abuse/rape.
If he's lying and this tale is his favourite bedtime story then he doesn't need my support, and that's that.

 

I just see a huge difference between a real rape and this story, but whatever, you are the smart one here. He could have been molested, but to me, and I suck and must be a horrible judgemental person, this can't be considered the same crime as a bloodied beaten person clinging to life. after being raped.

Besides, I already said I believed him.

 

Hey seamonster... I didn't mean to sound so cold. I totally hear you when you say that's it's unbelievable that this crime could be the same crime that involves torture and violence. From my experience of being violated without any lasting physical wounds, I know that the emotional damage it caused stayed with me and infected my life until I really dealt with it, so I can see what a torturous effect it can have, regardless of what things are like physically.

I am so surprised that you infer that I implied you are anything along the lines of a 'horrible judgemental person,' or less intelligent than me, that the idea that you are being sarcastic or joking occurs to me. [would like reassurance that you aren't :J ]

Hummm rape is a stingful and fragile issue not really addressed by our society. It might be amazing if instead of trying to inforce all sorts of punishments for rape after it occurs, we might try to find out why so many males have power-issues (or if whatever the real issue is--consult the rapist counsellors), and then figure out what it is in our system that is facilitating these problems and make adjustements or revolutions accordingly!

I'm dreaming

 

Ok I was being a little sarcastic (though slightly idiotic).

It seems to me that, lets say, the crime of theft..there are varying degees between petty theft and grand theft, they actually have different names. Perhaps i would not have a problem calling this rape if there were some sort of hierarchy of terms.

Still, i wouldn't have minded being whatever he was at that age. I can't imagine really feeling guilty, but I was a horny 14 year old.

 

like 1st degree, 2nd degree, 3rd degree murder kind of thing... hrm I wonder if there is such a thing for rape. I think it's less defined and they tailor the punishments per case. Interesting idea, though.

For some reason I had it in my mind that you were gay... didn't you say somewhere that you are?

Edit: Maybe it was someone with a similar username.

 

err, no..maybe someone else said I am. I haven't really been around here lately. Who knows though, maybe someday I will discover a gay side or two.

 

Let me just clear out something here.

1. This incident happened when I was 14 years old.

2. Today I over 40 years old.

3. Apart from the fact that I think about this, I am in no way "effected" by this incident. It is not my character to drag this to my mature sexual health.

4. As far as I am concern and feel, I am quite sexually active, quite like any normal guy here. I fantasize just like anybody else else, and I am attracted to the same normal attractions, fantasies, everything that is normally good in life.

5. It has nothing to do with my fantasies in spanking. No. Like I said. I am exactly like anybody else who fantasyses in small women, large women, big boobs, small boobs, twosomes threesomes, what ever.

6. I do have my limitations and I do get sick and disgusted with stuff like Child sex, death sex, incence ( I hope I wrote ir right, I mean sex within a family, sister/brother sort of things) and things of this sort. I also donot believe in taking sex by force from anyone. It must be within consent and within the usual boundaries that are acceptable by normal people.

7. So no, I am not affected by that incident. That woman used to work in a local domestic work company and she never came to work again there.

8. I actually Identify and am not angry with the guy who said that I should be lucky. I suppose should this have occured to me now heck I would probably have a smile on my face with happiness. But under these cercumstances I was undeveloped at that time even though I was 14.

9. So no. I'm not gonna check up my mental status because of that. I believe I am okey.

Thank you.

 

weird. whoops.

 

I have to point out that I know a man that did 10 years in prison for "unappropriate touch" he was 38 and she was 10. She *never* even told him to stop and in fact smiled lovingly at him when he did touch her. Mentally he brought her up to his level. He never had sex with her but anyone who reviewed the case would say "poor girl was raped by her step-father".

But if a woman does the same thing to a boy it's not the same? Bullshit! ANY adult can take advantage of a child and even convince them that they actually WANT it, even when they don't. It is still a violation no matter how you look at it, even if it isn't rape.

 

HAHAHAHAHAHA

 

quote:It is still a violation no matter how you look at it, even if it isn't rape

The question was "is it rape?" He could have gotten away if he really wanted to, but he's my favorite person on hipforums, he knows how to play innocent. I'll give you molestation, but I still think that rape implies force and violence because I'm slower and more stupider than all of you.

 

He could have gotten away if he really wanted to,

That is just it. You guys did not really understand the text that I wrote.

I am saying that at that particular age you are standing on a ledge. Between puberty and childhood. You experience feelings yet you donot understand what they really are.

I could have broken loose and run like shit. Yet I didn't. My mind was scared but my body liked it. Can a woman who is getting raped also experience this ledge type feelings?

but he's my favorite person on hipforums

You talking about me? I'm here like a month or so. You don't really know me.

he knows how to play innocent

Again, are you talking about me? Innocence is relative. When I was 14 I was innocent, but as I said before I am 40 now. I have now gained grounds and I too have enough of a dirty mind to be your equal.