So I am in a relationship and we have recently started trying to have sex without a condom (don't worry still using other forms of protection) and we are having difficulties getting it in. With a condom on it all works fine but without it seems like my foreskin gets caught or pushed back too far idk. Any ideas how to help fix this?
The best way is to really get her nice and ready. But, if she isn't that wet you could try to lick her first and see if that improves anything.
Thanks for the advice. As far as I know she can't get anymore ready than she already is, spend plenty of time on foreplay and getting her ready. I don't see why lubrication or arousal would be the issue if it isn't at all when we use a condom. But I'll give it more effort and see how it goes.
Unfortunately for guys, good old mother nature designed women to only be moist at times of peak fertility. For the rest of the time, most of them require either a lot of foreplay or a quick squirt of lube. Their is an old (and very true) saying that the best method of natural contraception is to only make love when she has a headache. So remember, when she wants to rip your pants off the moment that you get through the door, it is time to decorate the nursery and order the pram.
Are the condoms lubed? Maybe they need a little extra shot of lube. We use this stuff called Platinum. Silicone based. There is also one of the cooking oils that works but slippedmy mind. Olive oil or coconut oil but not sure. Stay away from Vaseline.
If you’re not trying to have kids, stick with using a condom then. Seems like trying to have sex without one is causing enough problems.
Silicone lube is the best. You can slip across sandpaper with that stuff. You only need a bit and it lasts a long time - doesn't dry out like water based lubes. Nice that you're off the condoms, that's like night and day different. Just get whatever lube you can in the mean time - finger her a bit with it, and put it on yourself rolled back. Have fun.
Not sure about the fertility thing. I've never had any trouble getting a woman wet by lots of foreplay. Kissing, caressing, titty play, pussy play and an oral orgasm. Maybe it is the "other forms of protection" that is interfering. Diaphragm? Vaginal inserts? Try not using them when you know she is not fertile and so how it goes (in).
As Irminsul said lubrication is your answer and lots of it, but your foreskin will ride up its the natural it works and the gets covered on the outward stroke,its the way it works, same as when you masturbate its always moving with you stroking it. Works well that way.
You need to stretch your foreskin, which is a quite easy thing to do. First you need to get some oil massaged into your foreskin, not to much, then you hold of your foreskin by taking a pinch each side of your foreskin by taking a pinch of your foreskin each side, and slowly pull forwards away from your body and as you pull away you also pull out sideways and hold for the count of 5 then release and you then start again till you have done that for 5 minutes, do that about 6 times a day and slowly your stretch your foreskin so it can move up and down during masturbation and sex as it should do may take around three months to get it right, but that's up to you, don't worry about over stretching it as your know when to stop. Any problems come back and see me, and it shows you did not play with your penis as a small boy.
No, I didn’t. I didn’t learn to masturbate until I was 14. I never had anyone to teach me about sexual health. My foreskin completely envelopes my penis when limp, and it hurts to stretch it too far. I can only pull it back enough to clean under it.
If using the condom there is no problem with penetration, perhaps the condom "covers" and makes the shapes smoother and more "aerodynamic". As someone suggested, many foreplay and the use of a good lubricant can be very helpful. At the beginning I also had some problems penetrating my girlfriend but it happened both using the condom and without it. With good and abundant lubrication, excitement and a little patience we succeed. Pushing little by little but firmly, I made room inside her. I felt that although it was tight, I was able to advance a little more with every thrust.. However, if he has difficulty discovering the glans penis by retracting the foreskin, it could be phimosis and maybe a visit to a doctor could be decisive to understand what the problem is.
I hope you have solved it using lube and lot of foreplay. However, if it were not so, it is certainly better to have sex using a condom rather than not doing it at all. Maybe if you can penetrate it by doing it, you can understand what is different about doing it with or without. By any chance does your girlfriend take the contraceptive pill?
