Trouble Activating Hall Pass

My wife of 20-years and I went through a rough patch that lasted about three years. She had become an alcoholic and I did little, but condemn and judge. We nearly divorced and towards the end, she even took on a boyfriend.
We've since resurrected our relationship and she's gone to rehab. She deeply regrets the infidelity and honestly it still bothers me with some regularity too. It's been a year, but it's still a problem.
Her solution is for me to have an affair. I asked if she just wanted to bring another woman into our bed, but she insists I need to do it alone first, before a potential threesome. She believes I'll better cope with her past transgression and she'll feel less guilty. It's gotten to the point she constantly brings it up. Almost like a chore I keep falling to complete.
Here's the issue. I haven't been with another woman in decades. I have zero interest in a prostitute and absolutely no clue how I'm supposed to pull it off. Ask random women whenever I'm in public? A dating site? I find none of this appealing, but see women all day every day I'd like to use my "hall pass" on. Any ladies or guys have any advice on getting this done. In a perfect world, I'd not only find "the one", but she'd subsequently be interested in joining my wife and I too.
High-class problems, I know...

 

You might want to try running this by a couples counselor, or at least talk to someone who has done something similar.

Frankly, if your wife decided to be unfaithful, you shouldn't obligated to use your "hall pass" on her time schedule.

Maybe you could start out getting some lap dances just to see how this is going to feel to you.

Another option might be to convert this into some sex-slave options with your wife.

The idea here is to heal the wounds caused by your wife's infidelity, and to do so by giving you some form of compensation. The compensation you get should be what you want, not what she wants you to want.

If you do decide that a third woman is necessary, it seems like maybe your wife should be the one who is obligated to recruit her.

Just be careful with this. It may seem like a hall pass is the remedy, but that is by no means guaranteed.

Hope it all works out

 

Well if you really wanted to sock it to her, you'd stay with her without venturing to anybody else, if that's your thing I dunno. I reckon it would pretty much shut anybody down.

But I reckon you're looking at this all wrong with the prostitution. You've been given the all clear to have guilt free sex with absolute stunning 10/10 women. most people say they're not into that scene, until they get a taste of it. but by all means you could go to the pub and try and pick up whatever trash is floating about, but youve been married for 20 years, so you aren't as young anymore. Personally, I'd be paying for the best available.

 

I'm with Irm on this one. There seems to be a ulterior motive behind the wife's permission or persistence with the subject. Is she looking for something she can hold over your head? My advice, take one of the two roads suggested. Remain monogamous with her or hire a playmate. Newbie makes some good points that compensation should be on your terms, not hers. If she keeps insisting make her put up or shut up. By that I mean to take newbie's other suggestion and have her get you a woman to fuck. If she can't do that then shut up about it and let you be. I think your threesome idea is best if she is to come up with another partner for you. It could be a FMF scenario where the two women do not interact with each other but only with the male. That way she will know what happens between you and the other partner and since she is a part of it she can't hold anything over you.

 

So you've got a hall pass. My advice is to pay into a dating site.

 

this

don't be choosy...

 

There's no hall pass, he divorced and asking how to pick up women

Just that the little made up story makes him sound less desperate

 

yeah!

 

Why is called a hall pass anyway?
I prefer whore pass ayyooooo

 

i don't think it is in real life. they called it that in one movie and now some people think that's actually what it's called.

although i guess it kind of makes sense. it's a pass to go find some loose woman and throw your hotdog down her hallway.

 

The term was originally used to allow a student to leave the classroom in order to go somewhere else on school property such as the bathroom. It morphed to describe the wife giving permission for the husband to get a night out with his buddies. The comment was formed when asked how he got out of the house to which he replied "She gave me a hall pass." Sexual debauchery was not expected but a good time at the ball game, horse track, or other event with a little booze mixed in was. The saying has evolved after the use of it in the movie by the same name. In the movie the wives give their husbands a week long "hall pass" to have sex with other women. What the husbands don't realize is the wives also execute the opportunity to have sex with other men.

 

I have hall passes hanging around my neck. Come punch a ticket.

 

This ^^^^^

 

Trust me, buddy, divorce would be the easy way out. Wouldn't have to look at her face. Wouldn't have to wonder if my kids think less of me for staying with her. Wouldn't have to watch her slowly fall off the wagon...again.
I posted on here for advice, thinking others with experience could help with a troubling and consuming situation. If you've got nothing constructive to add, you can fuck off. It may have been a long time since I hit on a woman other than my wife, but I haven't forgotten how to beat a mother fucker to death. Don't mistake my outreach for compassion, you'll regret it.

 

Well, after that post, I'd say my input has been very constructive

 

Lol. Settle down show pony.

 

Irminsul, you have quit a way with words.......

 

Ja, always had a filthy fucken mouth.

 

you are a cool lady through it all

 

Hey now, there's no need to post death threats here. Posting cynical comments is just what VG does

Sorry to hear this brother. It's got to be hard being in a relationship and watching this happen.

It sounds like getting her sober and getting the basics of the marriage right is a higher priority right now than the hall pass issue.

I hope that things can work out