Hello all, I am currently engaged in a fight for love and am seeking advice. I've been trying to hook up with a girl i'm dating, but she's seeing another guy too. we have fun together, and she says she likes me but she's taking a long time making up her mind and it's driving me nuts as i really don't want to lose her, and i really don't wanna be left the friend when the dust settles. As the title suggests there have been threesomes and i'm forced to wonder if she may be enjoying this just as things are. Both of us guys are in good shape, but i am the physically larger male so i would have thought she would have chosen me by now...don't know what is happening atm. From what i saw he's not brilliant in bed, no more then me. I really don't wanna get out competed buy this guy, has anyone had a similar experience?
Does she know she's supposed to choose, or are you just assuming it? I've been the woman in such a relationship, though it was a little different from what you describe. In my mind, I wasn't supposed to choose and I thought we were all just enjoying it as it was. The two men involved were great friends before my coming into the mix and are still great friends now. When one of them made me understand I was actually supposed to choose, I've explained him choosing didn't make sense to me, because I've never believed in exclusivity. I thought they knew that. He decided it wasn't good for him and we remained friends, all three of us. So, in the end I "stayed" with the other one. He turned out to be the greatest sexual partner I've ever had. We're still friends, but I live in another country and am married to another man. They all know each other and our common history.
Well I assumed at one point she would cut one of us loose. Like I said as fun as sex can be, i'm experiencing it as a competition right now. Me and him are not close friends, we just know each other. Everything about it seems like she's being a tease. I personally love when the partner gets on top, pins me on the mattress and takes control about half way through our routine and she never does it with me when it's 3 of us in a room, always rolls him and goes rough. With me she's all submissive...maybe the way he likes it...makes me think...
putting the cart before the horse? Have you even met her yet?...or is that internet love? LOL sorry, could not resist....Just communicate with her simply and clearly, is all....and hope she does the same.....that is all you can do at this point. Honest communication is the only thing that is going to work in any situation.
It's not that I didn't enjoy your jokes, somebody else pointing it out from the side made me laugh a little too, but some constructive advice would be great as well. I do have a bit of a problem here.
your having 3 sums with her and the other guy and your thinking that she wants to choose? Use common sense. Shes a hoe and wants a lot of dick, she dosent want to get settled down. Use your head.
