Tricked into Fatherhood

me and dave are both fixed.

 

Took my sig to heart.

 

indeed.

 

what a bad/sad situation..I only feel bad for the human that is already starting to develop..who will either be executed or born into with a single mom and a dad who moved far away who wants nothing to do with him or her..reminds me of a Clash song I know.

 

He should make sure the baby is genetically his first and foremost.

If he wants to give up parental rights, I think he should do just that.

But otherwise, I mean - it's his own fault for trusting this woman and continuing to have sex with her. Even if she was on the pill, there is a risk she could still have gotten pregnant. But it depends how much he cares to make a relationship work with this woman if he intends on being in the life of the child (if it is his of course).

I say that if she wants to keep it, it's mostly her child. If he doesn't want to have a baby - then he should forfeit his parental rights.

 

if he doesn't want it, it isn't his problem.
but yeah, obviously no parental rights.

 

just kill her
that will solve the problem

 

So I guess he won't mind if this child grows up and refers to him as "the old sperm donor" and decides it's too late when he suddenly wants to be in his/her life...

It isn't the child's fault, but they somehow always get shit on for it.

Walking away also does not look good to future women in his life.

 

I have a couple of issues with what you posted here.

1. I believe that there should be trust in any relationship. I don't think too much blame can be placed on him for trusting a long-term girlfriend.

2. How can an unborn child be mostly one parent's?

 

He should have worn a condom. Men should never have sex with women they can't see themselves marrying, because they have no say in the outcome of a pregnancy.

This is coming from a girl whose husband was not a DNA match for a child the mother told was most likely his. In addition he has a daughter he didn't know about until she was 8 and now he pays a lot of child support (as he should), but never gets to see her because the mom is a master manipulator and his daughter most likely feels uncomftrable around a man she didn't grow-up with.
I wish he and her mom could somehow become friends, so he could have overnight visits with his daughter.

 

I agree 100 percent.

 

i didn't read most of this thread, but anyway. the kid should be put in foster care or better yet, adoption. in no way should the guy be forced into being a parent under these circumstances. and the woman is clearly the worst kind of **** and should not be allowed to be responsible for a fish, let alone a human being.

 

i think he should poison the bitch.

 

I hate to say this, but if my husband didn't fall in love with me, I could see myself getting pregnant just to keep him. Pathetic?-I know. I am pretty manipulative in general. I don't like it about myself, but it's a hard habit to break.
I totally understand where this woman was coming from. IMO, you should be in love before you have sex. My husband disagreed and in the begining I had to manipulate him into saying it, and asking me to marry him. But, i did it and we're both glad I did.

 

i would NEVER do that to anyone..... that is fucked up dude. that ain't love, that is sickness.

 

WOW! I really don't know what else to say.

 

christ..
and I thought I was low.

 

on the other hand Bella, I highly admire your honesty.

 

Now that I'm over the initial shock of reading this, I have a question.

Why would you want to be pregnant to somebody who you knew didn't love you?

 

manipulation in that way is so beyond unethical i find it completely unpardonable. if anyone EVER manipulated me in that way i would have a very hard time not killing them. that's how angry that kind of shit makes me.

that being said, when i think about it from the perspective of me seeking peace in my life, i realize that that level of manipulation seriously indicates the kind of person i simply have no use for, and would just not get involved with on any level, and certainly not on a relationship level. there is just no use for manipulation. it's wrong, deceitful, underhanded. it tries to force things that just aren't meant to be. there is nothing right in it.