I feel silly to ask this but...oh well. I haven't been with anyone sexually in months. So my friends (who for some reason have always been more into sex than I have) asked me if I touch myself all of the time now since It has been just me for a while. honestly I'm more into being involved with someone. I guess because I feel more sexual? I think that a relationship with yourself is important, but it doesn't have to be sexual?
Since my boyfriend and I broke up, I haven't wanted to be touched at all. It's weird. I don't even feel like thinking about it. But that's okay. I can live without it.
I don't either. I guess its either you do or either you don't. Honestly, I'd rather have sex and touching myself does nothing for me. I guess I just don't turn myself on...
I can totally relate -- and I'm a guy! I guess I used to be more like a regular guy, but ever since I started thinking about sex from a more feminine, emotional perspective, all my interest in self pleasure (and porn) went away. I guess when you're really into the intimacy and sharing, it's hard to be satisfied with something that's purely physical.
hello neckienoo .i would love to tutch your butterfly .and more .some self love is nice.you cant beat sharing to shag .i bet you have plenty of lads .that want to pley with your BUTTERFLY. lol PEACE.
It's so nice to hear a male person say that, Wutheringheights! I lived with a man for a long time who neglected me. Before that I was alone. Now I am alone again. I do not know any other way to relieve my sexual tention than to touch myself into orgasm. It is not a relationship, by any means, and whether I go for long periods of time without doing that or for periods of time where I include it often, it doesn't change my need for a love relationship. One that includes physical touch. I too have a problem with most men and the lack of desire to be touched. It's just that when the hormones do want the action, it's always too soon in the relationship. That can kill it. And it's not often enough, by the selections that are out there, that my drive is activated. I think I'm more desperate for the companionship than the actual sex. After all, the sex I can handle by myself, even if it isn't the whole enchilada. Relationships are so wierd now, after having been alone for so long. I HAVE to choose who even comes near me or I'm completely discusted by what does. I'd like to make friends, but then that's what it is and that's what it's kept at. Since you have to know whether a guy is interested in more or not, you have to ask, right? And if he's only interested in something fast, you have to keep that in mind so you don't get hurt. Couldn't sex just be great as part of a psychotic episode or something, so you don't have to know, but you can enjoy it all the way just the same? Doesn't that sound funky? I have to kid myself that someone loves me just to get off. Either that or I have to lower my standards and get something going and hold off the sex until we're just really tight. That sounds like the real life to me. Holding off until love has grown something together. Hard thing to do for a women my age with a raging sex drive. And where and when do you decide to start touching? I feel like I'm going through puberty again. And you can't just let guys take ya down for sex because then they think they have rights, so it's kind of risky to go to bed with a guy when your not sure if he's going to be the one you want. (But good sex helps).
i've always figured that since sex is the result of emotions, if your emotions aren't driving you to it, then it's normal to not do it. If they are though... god help your forearm
My libido is damn near non existant now since I am on an antidepressant. It is kind of nice though in a way. I don't have to deal with a physical-only attraction anymore. So now I know that if I am lusting after a girl, there is real emotional chemistry. If that makes any sense.
