Some of us saw the picture of the blue lightsaber in the ther thread so you are still in good knick This: Comes off sounding negative, but its completely the opposite. Why do you expect anyone else to do or be anything, its only for your own wants / needs "Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth. There is no spoon. Then you'll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself." Realise the truth, 45 you are kind of bored of most people, its always the same old shit, bitching whining and complaining about everything, everyone else telling you what you should do with you life even though they are miserable themselves. Straight guys are knobs, Girls are just a nightmare. The things you enjoy, a good laugh, a good movie, a glass of wine with the TV show and of course a good ole furious 69 on the odd occasions, but not quite as often as when you were younger, so you dont really want to have someone in you face 24/7 and have to put up with boring related crap to do with that particularly the "in-laws" Especially if you are working 60+ hours a week and like to come home some nights and just have a good ole nap. Wine dinner, maybe a movie, then nice warm sucky sucky for an hour or two maybe errr once a week, and you dont really want to have to put up with anything else. Anything really wrong with that?, no ones really going to give a shit anyway, and you'll spend less money, and there will be a lot less stress
this is the typical hokum of miserable singletons. "i'd rather be on my own anyways blah blah blah.." pull the other one it's got bells on it.
let me tell you a story... When my grandfather was in his early 70s, he had a severe stroke...had to be put in a nursing home because he was too much for my grandmother to handle. So, my grandmother moved into a highrise apartment and they sold the house. My grandfather lived for a few years after the stroke. Before he died, my grandmother already had a new boyfriend. She still visited my grandfather often and I'm sure in her own fucked up way, she still loved him. But, she's had this boyfriend now for about 12 years. Its not like she's a senior citizen slut or anything...she's just certifiably insane. As for being gay, my cousin (who is almost 50) just came outta the closet and he's finding love everywhere! Trust me, my friend...love will always find you...sometimes, it just takes patience.
My great aunt remarried when she was in her late 70s. My mom gave up on relationships in her early 50s. She put up with years of shit from my dad and just some more shit with her boyfriends after that, and now she's found happiness by herself. So it's really personal preference. just don't give up on relationships because you think you're too old. There are a million better reasons to give up on relationships.
Well part of my point in quoting krog is that what he said, and what I said comes off sounding negative and cynical, to the listener, doesnt mean it is Whne it comes down to it, in the end, single or relatively so, you get a lot more action and put up with far less related crap that has to do with relationships, most noteably dealing with annoying in-laws Also the big trouble with fulltime relationships is that they tend to cut off other friends, you cant hang out with someone else cos the partner will get stroppy, or everyone epse will just assume they have to invite both of you to something, so if they dont like the partner then you get cut off as well, or its something they think you may like but the partner wont so they dont even bother inviting you So it might sound miserable, but the end result is you get to do more stuff. It might sound negative, but its really being negative about other people, especially with yhe green eyed monster, you just end up shooting yourself in the foot. A lot of attitudes prevail becuase everyone assumes as you get older and dont look as good you are not going to get as much nookie, and you dont really pay attention to opder people, see what they get up too. True if you are going to be too picky or insecure. But at the same time there is a lot more people with the atitude, oh well its only sex, big deal, who gives a fuck, you eventually just end up dead anyway. I'm 41 now, dont look as good as I did at 20, in one way, not as buff, but more distinguished. I know a lot of my posts sound negative, but I get way more 'trade' now than I ever did, because most of them are over all those silly little inhibitions that blocked them when they were younger Krog is right, the key to happiness is low expectations, expecting everyone to do everything you want is what actaully is miserable
nobody is ever too old for a relationship, but why do people think there is something odd if you choose or are not in one? enjoy life, play the field, have fun, let life take you where it will.
you're probably a bit old to be having kids, but i'm pretty sure that was not your goal anyway... anyone can have a relationship; the only reason your age could hold you back is because so many people get married as soon as they're able.
45 is still very young. Theoretically you have 45 more years left. I'm surprised you would think that is too old. People in their 70 will re-marry when they're spouse dies. So go for it !!!
Hun, You are not the only one in your circumstance. There are many other people who are your age, or in your dating age range, that are coming out of relationships and looking for love as well. Sometimes love is easier to find later in life because you have been through bad relationships and know what needs to be done to make it work based on your own wisdom and previous mistakes. The best of luck to you ;-) (It's too bad you don't live around me...almost all of my guy friends are gay and I have quite a few single ones!!!)
so, so true, lessons learned and all that.:2thumbsup: plus i think when youre younger, love is based more on lust than love, when youre older you realise what love really is and means, its not just sex and a pretty face, reminds me of the saying, when you poke the fire you dont look at the mantlepiece............
Love is a mystery that takes time to solve. Sometimes the solution is obvious and quick, sometimes it isn't and you have to look harder for it. I'm in my mid-50s and I have a GF less than half my age. And yes, despite the age differences, we are in love. I cannot explain it but it happened. There is no doubt in either of our minds as to our love for each other. The only thing that remains a mystery to me is why, a young lady like her, fell in love with a much older man. But that is one mystery that I'm really not looking to solve but, I will enjoy it.
